"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Asking in non-needy way?

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My girl invited me to join her trip to the sea with her working friends.

I asked her, can outside people like me join their trip?

She said, they can.

But, few days later, she then told me that maybe I can't join the trip

as there will be some executives of her working company join the trip.

Thus, outside people like me can't join the trip.

Actually, I want to join the trip, not because of her, but because

her friends are really cute.

My question is " How do I ask her whether I can still join the trip without

being looked needy or desperate?"

Thank you for every suggestion.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Never ask for dates. Offer dates. Say "if you play your cards right you might convince me to join you on your trip".
 
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bigneil said:
Never ask for dates. Offer dates. Say "if you play your cards right you might convince me to join you on your trip".
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It's not really that I ask her for dates. I just wanna ask her

if I can still join the trip, but How? The main reason is I wanna meet her friends which are cute. Dating with her is like an extra bonus.

So, what's your suggestion, sir?
 
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