"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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asking if she has a bf a good idea?

bbestar

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What im goin to do is go up to random ladies such as cashiers or ladies sitting down.

Start some fluf talk then once i gain little rapport with the girl.. I ask her if she has a bf...

If yes...
Well, Good cause im not looking for a serious relationship right now... We can be good friends, it would be a good idea if you wrote your number down so we could hang out sometime

If not then..

Dissapoint her by saying the same thing that you are sorry but im not looking for a serious relationship right now.. then ask her are you looking for a serious relationship.. then close for number.

Is this a good idea? Setting up the right vibe? or should I come up with something different..
thanks all..

ps, the not serious relationship line needs to be credited to someone on the forum when i was reading.. thanks anyway
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Morphiex

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dont mention a rlt when u ask her for the first time... Sheesh ....
u can say it if she say she has a boyfriend, but say it in a funny way to make her laugh , then when she laughes, say what,? im seriuos in a funny way... good way to start the convo..... other then that u dont mention that u dont want a seriuos rlt until u have been out for 3 dates or if u have had sex two times and she kinda gets klingy....
 

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It has been my experience that, 9 times out of 10, if a woman has a boyfriend she is serious about, she will make it known within the first 15-20 minutes of a conversation.

They work it in to their speech almost unconciously, relating something you say to her boyfriend, or talking about a time she did something with her boyfriend, etc.
 

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This is like approaching and asking if they are single.

What a waste of time. They will let you know. The question does little to move the conversation forward in a way that portrays you as an interesting person she should know.

And if you ask and the girl says she is single, you plan to tell her your not interested anyway, except as a casual f*ck. Ok, if all you want is totally insane hookers who'll blow you and every other guy with nerve enough to ask.

Many girls will lose interest in you at that time. The point of the number is to get a date. The first few times you see and talk to her she will be evaluating you. Focus on making a good impression.

What you suggest doing does not make you come across as engaging or entertaining. You come across as a game player, implying a certain lack of maturity.

Definitely practice your rapport. When you ask for the number she will let you know if she's not available.
 

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Bbestar: No... its not a good idea.... Yes you should come up with something different!!!

Your approach is so clinical and most decent chick will be thrown so of gaurd that they will answer yes almost always...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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