Asking her to send naked pics

[jake_whites]

Hi,

I know this girl since 2 years. We have been in long distance relationship. Last night we chatted and discussion went little excited. I got excited and asked to her to show me her naked pics. I said it like teasing her. But she said "No" by teasing me. I asked again second day, she said "No" again.

Then I asked and told her that I am asking you just last time ,either say "Yes" or "No".. She didn't give me an answer. She kept silence. I told her that I respect her privacy and if she says "No", I would never ask her.

Is it wrong to ask her naked pics? Does that mean she doesn't trust me? whereas i have no intentions to post it anywhere. Just keep it to private between us two.

How can I ask her again? Do I have to wait?

Regards,
Jake

 

[Falcon25]

She thinks you're a creep. Get her hot over the phone, tell her to finger her ***** and tell her what to do. Make sure you tell her how you are going to take charge and fuvk her senseless. Then you command her to send you pics. When she says no, you say, alright, then you don't get nothing from now on. Go fuvk your neighbor, have fun. Hang up. She has to feel horny to send you pics man. You have to get her hot. Send her your covk or something. Get her wet. Or, you can do what most of us men do, which is try to fuvk a girl who lives within 20 miles of our homes.

 

[Captain]

She's fvcking other men. It's a long distance "relationship". You are coming off desperate and creepy. Find other women.

 

[jonwon]

Hi,

I know this girl since 2 years. We have been in long distance relationship. Last night we chatted and discussion went little excited. I got excited and asked to her to show me her naked pics. I said it like teasing her. But she said "No" by teasing me. I asked again second day, she said "No" again.

Then I asked and told her that I am asking you just last time ,either say "Yes" or "No".. She didn't give me an answer. She kept silence. I told her that I respect her privacy and if she says "No", I would never ask her.

Is it wrong to ask her naked pics? Does that mean she doesn't trust me? whereas i have no intentions to post it anywhere. Just keep it to private between us two.

How can I ask her again? Do I have to wait?

Regards,
Jake

It isn't creepy, you'd be suprised how many woman actually send this stuff out.

Dam i've had chicks on online dating sites send me stuff before I even knew their second name.

As for GF, yes she will send some - and its perfectly ok to ask.

I dont see a problem here at all, probably like falcon said, get her in a state first but in all honesty, she either will or she wont.

It is that simple, and there is no harm in asking, if she thinks its a problem, I suggest you get yourself a girl who isn't so dam friggid, if she makes a big deal about it and starts to roast your nuts.

I doubt she will, though - I suspect she was thinking about it, hence the pause.

Remember a golden rule when it comes to women:

A women will do almost ANYTHING as long as she knows you wont JUDGE HER FOR IT. Most men dont know that shi*, but its true. A key rule for any guy who wants to get his woman to preform anal, or send pictures.

Its all salesmanship at the end of the day, how can you 'sell' her the fact that its a good idea.

A few ways i'd go about it:

"I'd like those pictures for my personal collection, when I'm all alone in bed and i'm thinking about you".

She probably thinks you'd stick them online or show all your friends - that is the only reason women usually dont send or do things out of there comfort zone, its how she will appear to others -

As for long distance relationships, thats another issue.

If you establish the correct frame in a relationship your women will do things most men wont experiance, bar messing with some of her serious taboo's - If her interest is at a healthy level, if she isn't doing things in this nature, its probably because you've not made her comfortable in allowing her to do these things. I.e the guy who laugh's, mocks or criticises things of this nature to his woman, effectivly puts a beta block on his women ever doing those things for him (or the guy who isn't confident in requesting this stuff in not second guessing himself due to her reaction). I.e never judge and you'll be surprised what your woman will do - If anything paint those negative things to be positive - I.e, "i'd love to see you in your glory, when I'm feeling a little lonely" - You really have to milk the shi* out of it.

 

[jake_whites]

so I blew everything...

She didn't get my all indirect messages before so I asked her straight and she said "no". She then said she doesn't know what to think now. Then I told "don't you trust me?" (I wanted to test her on this) she didn't answer and said "you don't respect me and it's not in my tradition". then later she said that she doesn't see any opportunity to talk with me anymore. and said to not contact her or message her anymore.

so I asked that if everything ends here, she said I don't know. and she didn't answer me and just ran away. she still kept me friend on facebook and other social sites.

She thinks i am a creep, but I had no bad intentions for that.

It seems its all over and she is ex now.

 

[Falcon25]

You can't ask someone to expose themselves to you if you haven't had them invest something emotionally in you. You had to turn her on, you had to make her comfortable. You just don't ask someone thousands of miles away to send you naked pics. Dumbest thing I have ever heard. Let this be a lesson.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

IMO it was the way you went about it, all serious and sh*t, like you're asking her to borrow 20 bucks.

That serious tone + asking to send naked pics = creepy/stalker.

Flirty/fun tone + asking to send naked pics = At worst, she says no, and you move on.

I've asked a couple times. Twice, it worked (same girl, only the second time with nudity), and once it didn't, but it still wasn't creepy and nothing changed.

 

[jake_whites]

Thanks for replies..I agree guys.
Indeed it was creepy to ask second time.

First time when I asked, I asked indirectly and flirty way but she didn't response properly. I thought she started thinking wrong about me. So I tried to clear with her telling that I was asking her naked pics. and then she got everything serious.

Well I also felt that she is cheating with me as she lately stop seeing me and ignoring my messages most of time. so I thought to play back like this way asking her pics.

Now she warned me to not to send her messages or try to contact me. But she keeps me in instant messengers, facebook etc. It's really strange that she didn't delete me.

I don't know does she still want me or not? I am never gonna contact her again until she wants, as she told me not to write her or contact her again.

 

[Neon Owl]

Just walk away.........you can save yourself..........if you just walk away.



Seriously though delete her from your facebook, msn whatever. Move on. It's over.
Pick up your balls and just walk away!

 

[Brighty]

You can't ask her nonchalantly. You have to get her in the mood. You have to turn her on. Some girls neglect to do this because they're self conscious about their bodies, but tell her how beautiful she looks and how sexy you think she is and how you want to see those beautiful tits. The rest will fall into play.

 

[horaholic]

I kept trying to get my ex to do it, but she wouldnt. So... i started sending her creative pictures of my cok, with bowties on it, for one. One was on a plate with a fork next to it. One was on my elvis plate. ETC. Trick is to get it hard first.

Anyway, she loved them! Then I was like, "where's mine?" And she finally sent a few of her vag. Plus, now I have all these crazy pics of my dikk in my phone, that are good for laughs in the right situation/company.

 

[chance]

lol i got someone to finger themselves on the phone and i was rubbin myself too

 

[jonwon]

Thanks for replies..I agree guys.
Indeed it was creepy to ask second time.

First time when I asked, I asked indirectly and flirty way but she didn't response properly. I thought she started thinking wrong about me. So I tried to clear with her telling that I was asking her naked pics. and then she got everything serious.

Well I also felt that she is cheating with me as she lately stop seeing me and ignoring my messages most of time. so I thought to play back like this way asking her pics.

Now she warned me to not to send her messages or try to contact me. But she keeps me in instant messengers, facebook etc. It's really strange that she didn't delete me.

I don't know does she still want me or not? I am never gonna contact her again until she wants, as she told me not to write her or contact her again.

Jake the problem wasn't the asking even though it probably did come across a little creepy, but the big issue you have here is the fact the girl didn't have a good level of interest from the start.

For her to blow out like that shows me clearly she wasn't that invested in you.

Sorry dude, but thats the truth.

The pictures thing was probably just a catalist of events with that being the ultimate event to throw the shi* out she did. I suspect you tried to get some token souvenir because you knew your relationship was on its last legs, hence yeh bad move, but fuc* it the relationship was dust and god loves a trier.

But in all honesty asking for naked pics off your woman is seriously not an issue at all, if it is, you've probably done little to make her comfortable enough or she is simply one of those girls, but only a girl with low interest would get pis*ed at the suggestion.

 

[jake_whites]

damn... I realize now this was really bad move.. We had chatted on something, and i meant to shoot pics of "naked chicken".. she teased and I teased her.. but i couldn't control myself. and asked her again. She really didn't understand my messages at all that's what she said. She wasn't really aware of what I asked indirectly (or she was playing with me that I should tell her straight..)

So I told her yesterday straight, but I was trying to say that I didn't really mean that. I just thought about that, but I really don't want it now and I respect her.

Now stupid part, her b'day present to me, I received today after many months. It seems we are going to end up being friends. But she knew that how I much i love her and how special is to me.

I still can't believe I talked her like that and later tried to explain her that I didn't really mean that. and she thought I really mean that.

Woman is hard to understand sometimes.

Thanks guys I really appreciate your replies. You are keeping me positive.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Don't act like you didn't want it and you 'respect' her. That's just fake and it increases the creepiness. I don't know why exactly, but owning up to things and holding firm is less creepy than lying about it and pretending you were joking.

 

[jake_whites]

I feel so creepy and bad for myself now. I couldn't able to control my feelings. and I behaved so badly. Now she's gone. She told not to contact her or message her. She kept me in facebook and IM.

It's so bad. I repeated mistake with her second time and now I am asking her that is this all over? She isn't replying at all.

I am unable to forget her, feel so down, bad for myself. I am keep writing her so many messages and not getting her even single response.

I don't know why she kept me on facebook and other social services. I don't want to delete her. If she wants to delete, I don't have problem.

I just don't know what to do? How can I get her to talk to me just one last time? I am unable to stop myself to write to her again and again and apologize.

 

[scribblec]

are u ****ing retarded!!!!!!!1 the more messages u send now the more shes going to justify in her mind that she was right!!!!!

stop contacting her and cut her from your life and she will eventually come back, what your doing now is burning the bridge forever

 

[Rescue Mission]

WHY are you in a long distance relationship in the first place?

Do you have so little game, that you are SETTLING for the first piece of a$$ that showed you any kind of interest, even if she lives far far away??

Do you enjoy having a girlfriend who you rarely get to fvck (if ever), rarely get to kiss, and even rarely get to hug? Is this how you are going to WASTE the young years of your PRIME dating life??

Do you enjoy it that your girlfriend won't even send you a naked pic to jack off to because she doesn't understand you (or men) sexually AT ALL?

How stupid are you? (answer this question most importantly).

YOu were raised by a single mom weren't you........you probably never even bothered to talk to or hit on more than 5 girls in 1 year........you are the super respectful pvssified CHUMP that has no control over himself............TIME TO GET THE CONTROL BACK.

TELL THIS GIRL TO NOT ONLY SEND YOU NAKED PICS, BUT TO ALSO COME SEE YOU WITHIN A WEEK, OR ELSE YOU WILL BE FVCKING OTHER GIRLS (TELL HER THIS).

 

[jake_whites]

This is going really stupid.

I think I am the biggest idiot/stupid/loser in this world.

I had everything going good here. Good career, had local girls interested in me. She came from outside with my client, visited one week and I fell for her.

It was all going good in the beginning. She used to send me her pics of her.
but day by day, I becomed more like puppy to her.

Rescue mission : I have had lost self control, you are right but I am not raised by single mother. But you were right, I am losing my control whenever girl got interested in me. My past relationships were ended like this too. I was becomed obsess.

With this girl, I had break up just a month before and she returned back that time. and I repeated mistake again by having doubts on her and asking her to send naked pics. I was thinking that she was into me, she was in love with me as much as I am in love with her. She knew this I am into her. She busted my balls. I guess she wasn't in love with me at all. I was even thinking to find job in her country and move to her city for her and surprize her.

I feel like creepy that I asked her to send naked pics, WTF! I asked coz I thought she was into me. but then I realized it was wrong and I started apologizing her. She didn't understand and when I told straight. She found out.

I am not gonna contact or write her.

I need to control it. I need to work on self control and concentrate more on my career. But as easy it seems to write , hard to do it, hard to forget her.

Any good resources on self control or getting out from this one sided love break up?

Thank you all for help. I appreciate everything.

 

[jonwon]

I feel like creepy that I asked her to send naked pics, WTF! I asked coz I thought she was into me. but then I realized it was wrong and I started apologizing her. She didn't understand and when I told straight. She found out.

Your really not getting this are you.

Scribblic said
"are u ****ing retarded!!!!!!!1 the more messages u send now the more shes going to justify in her mind that she was right!!!!!"

This guy understands and Rescue Mission is roasting your nuts because what your doing is limp wristed Beta Play.

Apologising for asking for naked pictures? Your whole attitude is wrong, seriously out of sinc with the type of guy you should be. This is your problem, the problem wasn't asking for the naked pictures the problem is your a limp wristed door-mat who has no back-bone.

What your fundimentally doing in this situation is what Scribblic states is, simply telling her her rational for not sending you those pictures was correct, because of the stupid way your acting in bending to her apologising frame. If this was me, i'd have this girl apologising for not sending me good enough pictures - You on the other hand have seriously no fuc*ing grounding on being a man with options, a man who is confident and a man who leads.

What your doing is apologising for your discovery of your personal desires, I.e you have no grounding on who you are or what you are, you simply morph and shift to slot into the frame of what you 'think your GF wants' - You have no backbone, no balls, no grounding and your seriously needy and clingy - why are you second guessing yourself, why are you even apologising, why are you even tolerating the fuc*ing drama of this chick, by her blowing out like she did.

You should be thinking of walking away, you should be thinking of dropping her on her as*, you should be thinking of at least giving her a piece of your mind, but in all cases this situation has been created by you, not because you asked for something, nope simply because you played the nice guy beta game and wasn't grounded on concurent self belief of what you actually want -

Like I stated the relationship was doomed, not because you asked for naked pictures but if this example is anything to go by, you've dried up your GF puss* by being a plyable smuck who has no ball sack - over the course of your relationship, you've dipped your ~GF interest in you to pits and thats the bottom line truth of the matter.

She was simply looking for an excuse, an excuse you played into perfectly by being the guy she lost respect for, by apologising, by thinking you did something wrong.

What you should have done is mocked her a little, stood up for yourself alot and made no apologie for requesting or doing stuff you wanted to do - You should have stuck to your guns, you should have lead and made her follow - What you are is nothing but a guy being led by the hand in the hope he doesn't upset his woman -

Listen and learn.

First port of call is to broaden your options if you can, so when you date a woman you can be concurent with what you want, because you have options - Settling for a long distance relationship where your walking on egg shells is the ploy of an omega a total beta, and your reaction is weak, pathetic and you need alot of work-

Sorry to stick the boot in, but you need to get this shi* sorted.

Get out there and get a haram of women, date 3-5 women, settle on the best one - not some LDR woman you cant even man the fuc* up to, when the shi* flys.

Dam how the hell are you going to cope in a real relationship? Women are fuc*ing brutal to nice guy chumps like you, trust me even the daintiest flower needs a firm hand and alot of leading - Girls cant help themselves -

I seriously cant remember the last time I apologised to my GF, she tosses me some shi* for something i've done, I either mock her right back, treat her like a bratty little sister or go do some other shi* - I'd never ever apologise for something I actually wanted to do.

Me
"Lets do Anal"

Her
"Thats discusting, I cant believe you asked for that"

Me
"I know, filthy and very naughty, I'll grab the lube"

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Me

"send me some naked pictures, I'd like to look at you when I'm alone on the bed"

Her
"No, thats creepy"

Me
"Ok no problem i'll get Susan/Jane/Carol to send me some then"

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You on the other hand would be thinking what you did wrong and trying to make it up to her! I'd hit you across the head if I was in your vicinity.