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hey, i'm casual friends with a girl (not LJBF'd) and i'm trying to come up with a good way to iniate conversation with her.

anyway, there's an expensive pair of sneakers online that i want to get

would it be a smart idea to be like, "hey, i wanted a girl's opinion on these, what do you think?" i'd ask it confidently and with humor

would a girl dig that or would it come across as AFC

btw, the sneakers are crazy expensive and i figure her seeing the hefty price tag and knowing i'm willing to spend that money on fashion wouldn't hurt either

thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HandyAndy said:
Sure you can ask her. Ppl do it in stores all the time. Girls know fashion
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Yea, I just don't want come across as weak and needing her approval... my intent would be to just get her opinion (and wow her with the price)
 
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iqqi said:
THAT is AFC.

She will either see right through it, or think you are foolish to pay so much for some shoes.
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Point taken, I suppose.
 

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Don't think too hard.

Go ahead and ask her for fashion advice. It'll be fine. I promise.
 
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The Deacon said:
Don't think too hard.

Go ahead and ask her for fashion advice. It'll be fine. I promise.
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Well I guess that ends that discussion... thanks.
 
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