Asking for help on a situation!

[reddog]

Hey guys, I would be grateful for any thoughts on this situation!

Me: 23 year old good looking dude
Her: cute 20 year old girl

The situation is: A woman was giving me choosing signals, so I asked her out for a date the next day. The date went great, dancing, laughing, kissing...she was really into me. After successfully reading her actions instead of words, I got her to my place. However, when I started to kissing and undressing her, she started madly physically resisting and saying that she'll shout if I don't stop (meanwhile she was looking at me in a way like she's observing if I'll proceed). But since she continued resisting I stopped, because you know...I don't want to rape people. Afterwards I escorted her out of the dorms (and all the way out she was looking at me with a smile on her face, like I failed her test and she won). I tried to arrange another date, but since she started to resist, I said goodbye.

2 days later she's hitting me up, wanting to meet.

PS: The same situation also happened with another girl.

Thoughts?

 

[Billtx49]

After successfully reading her actions instead of words, I got her to my place.

when I started to kissing and undressing her, she started madly physically resisting and saying that she'll shout if I don't stop

PS: The same situation also happened with another girl.

You did not successfully read her actions.

You’re moving too hard and definitely faster than she is. Read up on the art of kino and seduction.

Adjust your physical seduction game, two girls with an identical experience should tell you that…

 

[Seductions_Mad_Scientist]

Hey guys, I would be grateful for any thoughts on this situation!

Me: 23 year old good looking dude
Her: cute 20 year old girl

The situation is: A woman was giving me choosing signals, so I asked her out for a date the next day. The date went great, dancing, laughing, kissing...she was really into me. After successfully reading her actions instead of words, I got her to my place. However, when I started to kissing and undressing her, she started madly physically resisting and saying that she'll shout if I don't stop (meanwhile she was looking at me in a way like she's observing if I'll proceed). But since she continued resisting I stopped, because you know...I don't want to rape people. Afterwards I escorted her out of the dorms (and all the way out she was looking at me with a smile on her face, like I failed her test and she won). I tried to arrange another date, but since she started to resist, I said goodbye.

2 days later she's hitting me up, wanting to meet.

PS: The same situation also happened with another girl.

Thoughts?

Next time that (hopefully doesn't) happen; do this:

1) Do not react emotionally. Remain calm
2) tell her "you're free to do as you want" or something to the like.
3) give her physical space by getting up, get a glass of water/ get some air/etc.
4) come back and assess where she is at emotionally and proceed from there.

Cheers

 

[7onriverI f]

Just tell her outright now that you wanna give her a orgasm. Ask her if she wants you to make her laugh. Say a joke. Look at her in a funny way. Ask if she wants you to kiss her.

A lot of the time you might not need to ask these questions if your knowing what to do but if your getting resistance and not knowing what to do communication is better.

 

[Scars]

Just tell her outright now that you wanna give her a orgasm. Ask her if she wants you to make her laugh. Say a joke. Look at her in a funny way. Ask if she wants you to kiss her.

A lot of the time you might not need to ask these questions if your knowing what to do but if your getting resistance and not knowing what to do communication is better.

Don't listen to this guy..

OP, it sounds like there was some inconsistencies happening, or you missed a couple steps. Perhaps not enough kino? The fact that this happened twice from two different woman, leads me to believe there is a hole in your game somewhere.

Don't forget that women like the conversations and tension building up to the sex just as much as the sex itself, I think maybe you're jumping the gun too quickly. Try easing back a bit and see if it helps.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Hey guys, I would be grateful for any thoughts on this situation!

Me: 23 year old good looking dude
Her: cute 20 year old girl

The situation is: A woman was giving me choosing signals, so I asked her out for a date the next day. The date went great, dancing, laughing, kissing...she was really into me. After successfully reading her actions instead of words, I got her to my place. However, when I started to kissing and undressing her, she started madly physically resisting and saying that she'll shout if I don't stop (meanwhile she was looking at me in a way like she's observing if I'll proceed). But since she continued resisting I stopped, because you know...I don't want to rape people. Afterwards I escorted her out of the dorms (and all the way out she was looking at me with a smile on her face, like I failed her test and she won). I tried to arrange another date, but since she started to resist, I said goodbye.

2 days later she's hitting me up, wanting to meet.

PS: The same situation also happened with another girl.

Thoughts?

this sounds like she was intimidated but wanted to continue. in these situations i lay back on the bed/couch and tell her to 'come here ' with subtle inviting open arms, instructing her to climb on me. let her sit on top of you fully clothed, it doesn't matter, you can be more handsy and aggressive because she'll feel more safe/comfortable on top and you can get her really worked up. she can always jump off and if she complains you can always point out that she's on top of you, and is free to get off whenever ;P

sometimes you'll hint or instruct her to 'come here ' and she'll just snuggle up to you. in those situations she's probably just too inexperienced/intimidated to climb on top. you can try instructing her with something more obvious like telling her to sit on you, but if she refuses even with encouragement then she's just too green. in those situations i just tease them and make them laugh. i get them comfortable because i enjoy a comfortable woman. i enjoy a woman opening up to me because i want to see who she really is. if i like what i see we'll only both end up getting turned on.

then there's the super experienced girls that will act green just to see how you act. you can tell these girls apart because they have some signs of being experts. they may moan or dirty talk like a porn star, they may give crazy amazing head or strip with confidence and show off their bits like they know they're hot shiit. the expert girls are easy to spot because they can't help but show off their expertise in some regard. they may also want you to just hold them down and fuuck them, but that's generally really stupid, it actually shows that they don't know proper kink play. if you're going to do that then at the very least get her to agree on a safe word and respect it. if i sense an expert i may say 'if it's too much then tap out, the safe word is lasagna, got it? say it so i know you understand.' as soon as she says it i go to town, working slow and driving her crazy.

when you have them in your bed work slow and methodically, never appear to be in a rush. chicks go crazy because it oozes power and control, the good ones submit desperately. they start trembling waiting for your next tease and you feel like a god. not to mention most guys they meet just go straight for sex and don't think ahead.

 

[Blacksheep]

Hey guys, I would be grateful for any thoughts on this situation!

Me: 23 year old good looking dude
Her: cute 20 year old girl

The situation is: A woman was giving me choosing signals, so I asked her out for a date the next day. The date went great, dancing, laughing, kissing...she was really into me. After successfully reading her actions instead of words, I got her to my place. However, when I started to kissing and undressing her, she started madly physically resisting and saying that she'll shout if I don't stop (meanwhile she was looking at me in a way like she's observing if I'll proceed). But since she continued resisting I stopped, because you know...I don't want to rape people. Afterwards I escorted her out of the dorms (and all the way out she was looking at me with a smile on her face, like I failed her test and she won). I tried to arrange another date, but since she started to resist, I said goodbye.

2 days later she's hitting me up, wanting to meet.

PS: The same situation also happened with another girl.

Thoughts?

It's quite common, most girls tend to do those games.

She wants to have sex, but wanna play the hard one to get.

What I usually do in those situations is try to find some exciting body parts on her that make her horny. Like kissing neck, legs, etc. Focus on making her so horny that she won't resist and will allow you to fck her. This is what works most for me in those situations.

Also I like to say: Don't worry, I don't want to do nothing with you tonight... I prefer to go slow. I just think we could have some more intimacy and enjoy that moment, don't you? Without having sex.

And there is some girls that it won't work... So, better off spin plates cause it's fcking stressful.

One case: I met a girl, really hot and virgin... Felt an intense connection with her. First year we've met and she was playing the really difficult to get and date girl. Left her. One year late she hit on me, starting to talk and showing desire to date again. Second date on this time she was completely naked on my bed and really horny. But idk what the hell why, she just get up and said: "Let's stop, I want to go home... I'm virgin and now you will think a lot of bullsh1ts about me."

After that she became really jealous like, if I didn't reply her on whatsapp quickly she said that I didn't like her. That time when she said that I just said: "Ok, so better we don't see each other anymore... bye.". She blocked me and we never talked again hahaha.