Asking a woman if she's single

[ThisNThat]

Ever had a woman get defensive when you asked her if she was single? I had couple that couldn't give me a straight answer or attempt to deflect it/get defensive.

Of course, she could be anticipating your interest when she's not interested, but there's just something b**chy about being a b**tch about it.

I had one woman I met at a party say ask me back, "Does it matter?"

I think this is where online dating had become more appealing, you know straight up someone's intentions for being on the site and saves some men the hassle of the old-fashioned, organic approach...as sad as that sounds how the information age tends to be a crutch in social situations.

 

[wifehunter]

Plenty of bitches out there. It's normal. Move on!

 

[Young OG]

I have learned that it's better to not ask them and just assume they are. You should believe your the best option and you shouldn't be concerned about other guys.

 

[lizardking82]

I agree with both posters above me. First of all, no need to ask as she will anticipate if she doesn't want you hitting on her. Second of all, if she gets defensive about the question, that's a slight red flag I would consider cause there is absolutely no real reason to get defensive and butthurt about a question like that.

 

[Urbanyst]

Don't ask women if they are single ever. They will tell you they have a boyfriend if they want to you know.

Sometimes women are about to end their relationship and they are looking for a new branch to swing to. You can ruin that by asking them if they are single.

 

[ThisNThat]

Don't ask women if they are single ever. They will tell you they have a boyfriend if they want to you know.

Sometimes women are about to end their relationship and they are looking for a new branch to swing to. You can ruin that by asking them if they are single.

Ah, I get it. Yeah, I think if you let them talk long enough, they'll let it slip that they have a bf

 

[Trunks]

I disagree with some of the posts here. Asking a woman if she is single is fine if only because it is a very non-threatening yet direct way of informing her that you want to f-ck her.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I had one woman I met at a party say ask me back, "Does it matter?"

damn bro, what a strong minded independent woman she sounded like. It's a got damn shame that one got away.

 

[sazc]

bad attitudes are never attractive in the long run, even if they are packaged in an HB8 or above. leave these b1tches in your rear view mirror. they need the kick in the ego desparately

 

[ThisNThat]

A better way to frame it is "What is your relationship situation?"

And whatever answer she gives you, be okay with it. Don't look dissapointed if she isn't currently single. She could be looking to find another guy.

What a lot of guys who lack experience don't know is that there are "relationship worthy" women, and women with too many issues. Most women have too many issues. Even the hot ones.

The "relationship worthy" women are ALWAYS in a relationship. Or they are in the process of getting out of one. Or juggling multiple relationships. Relationship worthy women are in high demand so they are rarely 100% available. There is already a long waiting list.

Men with experience know this. If you act like her not being single is a big deal, then you out yourself as a guy who is not part of the "sexual fraternity." You look like a guy on the outside looking in.

Life is just like high school. There really is a sexual fraternity. A hierarchy of people who validate and fvck each other all the time, and people that nobody wants.

One of the tenets of the sexual fraternity is that relationship worthy women are never 100% single....unless she was living in a farm or some place that isolates her.

I know married women that are going to social events, without their spouses...which means they are looking to trade-up. They deny it though, saying "he works the night shift" or whatever reason. Usually I "call it" pretty accurate when a few months later their FB status goes to "single" (now divorced) and they change their last name. lol

 

[BeExcellent]

I disagree with some of the posts here. Asking a woman if she is single is fine if only because it is a very non-threatening yet direct way of informing her that you want to f-ck her.

This ^^^^

When a man asks me this question there is no doubt he finds me attractive. In a way it sets up how he wants to interact with me. It is leadership and it is direct. A man who asks this straight up unapologeticly leaves no doubt.

If a woman responds in a wishy washy or I have a boyfriend way, she's not interested. If she says she's not seeing anyone she's open to your interest AND she knows you find her attractive.

Sounds like a perfectly efficient use of time to me

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Pro Tip:

If you ask a woman if she's single, and she gets upset, it's not the question that's getting her upset. It's that it's YOU asking the question.

 

[RangerMIke]

I never ask if they are single if I am interested. I just as them out or ask for their number. If they are not available they will let you know.

 

[skinnyguy]

I watched a YouTube video where the guy asked a girl if she had a bf and she said yes, then he said "perfect! I love dating attached women" and she started laughing