Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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asking a girl out via email?

wetnoodle

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Hi, I work at the dining hall for my university. Last night as she was leaving one girl gave me a flower on her way out. I became nervous because it was so unexpected so all I did was smile and say thanks. 5 minutes later she came back and asked my name and we talked for a minute. I should have asked her for her number but I didn't. Today I found out that she looked me up on thefacebook.com and sent me this message:

Did you like the flower. I think you're such a cutie. We should hang out some time.

How should I respond?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Luveno

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Reply:

Tell her yes, and make a definite date!!! When, where, how you get there etc. You're the man. You call the shots.
 

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Say, "Sounds good! Give me a call at xxxxxxx or email me your phone number".
 

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I'd reply with something like:

Hola Suzie,

Thanks for the flower. All my friends laughed at me. I hope you're happy. Just kidding. Next time please bring Italian food instead. Seriously, I like lasagna.

Email me your number!

--GC
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Desdinova

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I detect a small problem here. Welcome to the boards you have a lot to learn.
I agree that he has some things to learn, but there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man. She even gave him a flower. He got off easy on this one, he didn't even have to approach!

And those of you who praised this.....Shame on you.
WTF is wrong with you? Most AFCs would kill for this to happen. Just because he didn't have to put any effort into getting a woman interested in him doesn't make it wrong.

Tell her you would have liked the flower more if you were a girl.
That's just mean. If he's going to respond, he should be ****y/funny about it. Something like this:

I like the flower. I used it to replace all the dead ones in my house.

Noodle, tell her to email your number and set up a date. Work on your dating skills for now rather than your PU skills. When you call her for a date, make sure you have a date, time, and place picked out. Say something like this when you call her:

Hey, why don't you meet me at xxx at x o'clock on xxxday?

Keep the phone convo short. 10 minutes should do. Keep the conversation for the date.

Good luck!
 

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Originally posted by GirlCrazy
I'd reply with something like:

Hola Suzie,

Thanks for the flower. All my friends laughed at me. I hope you're happy. Just kidding. Next time please bring Italian food instead. Seriously, I like lasagna.

Email me your number!

--GC
Now that is some good ****!!! Nice!
 

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Great job with the reply. You've got it easy dude, you've got the whole situation packaged up nice and dropped in your lap.

Concider yourself lucky.
 

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hey... you dont get approached by girls like this often. Its only happened 4-5 times in my lifetime. Its very rare so -capitalize-. You got a window of opportunity so make the most out of it you can.
 
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Ok another so called don juan hiding his true identity to escape being flamed for such a lame azzed question. If Im wrong then you still should know what to say.

How about a one word repy:

OK

How about a few words:

Well thank you, and I'd love to hang out with you.

How about a few more words since your educated brain isn't getting any nourishment:


I loved the flower. I think your very cute too. I would love to spend some time getting to know you better. You can reach me at this number.

signed:

The weakest man n the world.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Wetnoodle" - nice potent screen name! :rolleyes:

This story sounds incredulous - girls don't walk around with a flower to hand out to dudes!

What in sam hill is the "facebook"? A university web connection for students?
 

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Facebook is a thingy where you put your profile on this site and other people from your university can look at it. You add friends, and get to look cool/like a wh*re when you have a lot of friends.

But yeah, you can choose to put your contact info in it. I haven't tried hitting it up to meet girls, but I may this coming winter quarter.

Oh yeah.. *cough*
:) Clicky
 

true|hockey

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Originally posted by ShizamDaMan
Facebook is a thingy where you put your profile on this site and other people from your university can look at it. You add friends, and get to look cool/like a wh*re when you have a lot of friends.

But yeah, you can choose to put your contact info in it. I haven't tried hitting it up to meet girls, but I may this coming winter quarter.

Oh yeah.. *cough*
:) Clicky
yeah, I tend only to use this facebook things to make my friends laugh, and join inane groups
 
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