Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Asking a girl out to a movie or dinner on the spot?

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There's this girl I see sometimes on campus, and we both get out of class at the same time on Monday and Wednesday. We walk together to the parking lot and then we split.

I don't see any reason why I couldn't say.... "Let's go catch a movie.." or... "Wanna grab a bite to eat?"


Anything I should be aware of if I give this a shot?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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KontrollerX

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Other than rejection no.

Rejection is better than regret.

Ask her to a movie. ;)
 

Nighthawk

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'Wanna get high?'

Yeah, the old 'Towelie Special', never fails. Apart from with Christian chicks, and who wants them anyway?
 

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Just Another Guy.... said:
There's this girl I see sometimes on campus, and we both get out of class at the same time on Monday and Wednesday. We walk together to the parking lot and then we split.

I don't see any reason why I couldn't say.... "Let's go catch a movie.." or... "Wanna grab a bite to eat?"


Anything I should be aware of if I give this a shot?
In today's community Don Juans and PUAs alike look down upon a movie date for the first date. They, or I should say we, see it as not being unique enough compared to other guys. But I believe that movie dates are fine for the first date. There are many reasons for this but I will say it doesn't matter where you go.

The next time you are walking in the parking lot begin building the close. Start talking about current movies at the movie theater.

Jay: I want to see X movie real bad. Have you seen it yet?
Hottie: No
Jay: We should go see it
Hottie: OK

And then you make plans right there when you will see it. And you also get her number there so you can call her to confirm on the day of the movie. Let us know what happens! ;)

Jay Lance
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ace_McGregor

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Don't go for a movie. It requires too much commitment on her part - meaning she knows she has to spend two hours with you in a dark theater where you won't be able to talk with her. How do you expect to raise her interest level by doing this??

Go for a casual lunch and she'll be more likely to accept.

You: Hey, I found this great little place to eat right down the street...blah blah.
HB: Oh Yeah?
You: Hey why don't we go there for lunch.
 

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There's this girl I see sometimes on campus, and we both get out of class at the same time on Monday and Wednesday. We walk together to the parking lot and then we split.

I don't see any reason why I couldn't say.... "Let's go catch a movie.." or... "Wanna grab a bite to eat?"


Anything I should be aware of if I give this a shot?

I agree with dude. This date at a minimum will take at least 4 hours. You've will already have failed two sh*t tests:

1) Your giving A LOT of time and attention to somebody who hasn't done a thing to earn it. Tell me, what has this girl done to warranted you spending this much time and money on her at this point in time? Looking hot in halter top with those capri pants and saying hi to doesn't quite cut it.

2) Remember this chick is trying to qualify you as a boyfriend or a husband. The chances are that more than likely that during the course of this LONG A$$ DATE Your going to do or say something stupid to turn her off.

Do Leykis says, call her up and say this:

Just Another Guy: (After initial fluff talk) When are you having dinner?
Chick: 8. Why?
Just Another Guy: Cool. That means you can meet me at around 9:30 or 10 for drinks.

Or you can use Louis and Copeland's method which is use the first date as a priming date, which leads to a seduction date. Read the chapters on priming and seduction dates in How To Succed With Women]
 
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Well, I've already got rapport and her number. I guess I should have specified that. We've been talking about going to see "Good Luck Chuck" So I might just ask her to go.
 

iqqi

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You guys think too much. go to the damn movies. its not that big of a deal! a bite to eat is more of a commitment actually... then you have to talk to the person!

do both. and if you are having fun and its a monday, who cares if the impromptu date lasts 12 hours?! Those are the best ones.

Have fun. let us know what happens.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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