"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Asking a girl out to a movie or dinner on the spot?

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There's this girl I see sometimes on campus, and we both get out of class at the same time on Monday and Wednesday. We walk together to the parking lot and then we split.

I don't see any reason why I couldn't say.... "Let's go catch a movie.." or... "Wanna grab a bite to eat?"


Anything I should be aware of if I give this a shot?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Other than rejection no.

Rejection is better than regret.

Ask her to a movie. ;)
 
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'Wanna get high?'

Yeah, the old 'Towelie Special', never fails. Apart from with Christian chicks, and who wants them anyway?
 
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Just Another Guy.... said:
There's this girl I see sometimes on campus, and we both get out of class at the same time on Monday and Wednesday. We walk together to the parking lot and then we split.

I don't see any reason why I couldn't say.... "Let's go catch a movie.." or... "Wanna grab a bite to eat?"


Anything I should be aware of if I give this a shot?
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In today's community Don Juans and PUAs alike look down upon a movie date for the first date. They, or I should say we, see it as not being unique enough compared to other guys. But I believe that movie dates are fine for the first date. There are many reasons for this but I will say it doesn't matter where you go.

The next time you are walking in the parking lot begin building the close. Start talking about current movies at the movie theater.

Jay: I want to see X movie real bad. Have you seen it yet?
Hottie: No
Jay: We should go see it
Hottie: OK

And then you make plans right there when you will see it. And you also get her number there so you can call her to confirm on the day of the movie. Let us know what happens! ;)

Jay Lance
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don't go for a movie. It requires too much commitment on her part - meaning she knows she has to spend two hours with you in a dark theater where you won't be able to talk with her. How do you expect to raise her interest level by doing this??

Go for a casual lunch and she'll be more likely to accept.

You: Hey, I found this great little place to eat right down the street...blah blah.
HB: Oh Yeah?
You: Hey why don't we go there for lunch.
 
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There's this girl I see sometimes on campus, and we both get out of class at the same time on Monday and Wednesday. We walk together to the parking lot and then we split.

I don't see any reason why I couldn't say.... "Let's go catch a movie.." or... "Wanna grab a bite to eat?"


Anything I should be aware of if I give this a shot?
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I agree with dude. This date at a minimum will take at least 4 hours. You've will already have failed two sh*t tests:

1) Your giving A LOT of time and attention to somebody who hasn't done a thing to earn it. Tell me, what has this girl done to warranted you spending this much time and money on her at this point in time? Looking hot in halter top with those capri pants and saying hi to doesn't quite cut it.

2) Remember this chick is trying to qualify you as a boyfriend or a husband. The chances are that more than likely that during the course of this LONG A$$ DATE Your going to do or say something stupid to turn her off.

Do Leykis says, call her up and say this:

Just Another Guy: (After initial fluff talk) When are you having dinner?
Chick: 8. Why?
Just Another Guy: Cool. That means you can meet me at around 9:30 or 10 for drinks.

Or you can use Louis and Copeland's method which is use the first date as a priming date, which leads to a seduction date. Read the chapters on priming and seduction dates in How To Succed With Women]
 
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Well, I've already got rapport and her number. I guess I should have specified that. We've been talking about going to see "Good Luck Chuck" So I might just ask her to go.
 
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You guys think too much. go to the damn movies. its not that big of a deal! a bite to eat is more of a commitment actually... then you have to talk to the person!

do both. and if you are having fun and its a monday, who cares if the impromptu date lasts 12 hours?! Those are the best ones.

Have fun. let us know what happens.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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