"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Asking a girl out for lunc otmorrow..am I using the right approach or am I TOO FAST?

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cluelessasian

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Its a continuation from this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82207

I had lunch with her in the company cafe together with her friends. Had some great conversation and she asked me several questions as well like "how i am doing" "why did you choose to work here" "where are you from etc"

So tomorrow I am going up to her cube tomorrow morning to have a short conversation and then just mention about going out for lunch sometimes during the week..

Do you guys think i am on the right track?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Derek Flint

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Dating women you work with is a really bad idea.
 

MercutioTHEGREAT

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:up:your good homie.
 

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eh, yeah you got it, make it a quickie, fcuking ur coworkers can be mad good until **** breaks down.
 

DonJuanMonk

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Hey cluelessasian, who gives a sh!t?

BTW, Thanks for sending me that private message telling me how my grandparents fcked my mother. That's brilliant coming from a cute little girley boy who thinks he's a man.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You are in the friendzone. No you aren't on the right track. Having lunch with and her and her co-workers has nothing to do with dating.

And to top it off you doing all this crap at work.
 

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^^ Ignore that. You arent in the friend zone. I think some guys take that a little too seriously. Its not that easy unless your being a total idoit. Well I guess most guys are total idoits lol. But from what I read you have done everything pretty right.

so far shes shown you interest. Ask her to hang out with you and make it clear that its a date. Like tell her that "you want to take her out to dinner" not "have dinner with her" which can mean its not a date.
 
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