Asking a girl out does not have to be a big deal

[dosquito]

I'm just sharing this tip as a very practical piece of advise.

For a while I struggled with how to ask a girl out. "Do you want to hang out?" in my opinion sounds a little too passive, while "do you wanna go out some time?" is sometimes too forward and kills the mystery.

For those girls whom you maybe have flirted with a bit, but don't know too well, try this one. I've had a lot of success with it lately:

"Do you wanna get together some time?"

or

"This was fun! Do you wanna get together again some time?"

Perfect level of ambiguity that will save you some self-respect if you're rejected (gives her a good opportunity for a soft rejection) but will also make teh girl wonder "just WHAT did he mean??" if she's interested.

Good luck out there folks.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I'm just sharing this tip as a very practical piece of advise.

For a while I struggled with how to ask a girl out. "Do you want to hang out?" in my opinion sounds a little too passive, while "do you wanna go out some time?" is sometimes too forward and kills the mystery.

For those girls whom you maybe have flirted with a bit, but don't know too well, try this one. I've had a lot of success with it lately:

"Do you wanna get together some time?"

or

"This was fun! Do you wanna get together again some time?"

Perfect level of ambiguity that will save you some self-respect if you're rejected (gives her a good opportunity for a soft rejection) but will also make teh girl wonder "just WHAT did he mean??" if she's interested.

Good luck out there folks.

I heard those are still not good ways to ask a girl out because it is an asking for permission type of tone, which is unfortunately a Beta way with women

 

[dosquito]

By the time you're asking a girl to spend personal time with you you should already have a good sense of her interest level.


Trust me, when you see a girl from your class at lunch and eat with her then after class she comes up to say hi,

"Hey! Did you wanna get together again some time?"

Is not gonna hurt you!

In fact I believe the reply was,

"*a bit taken aback that I was so direct* uh, sure! Yeah, that sounds fun! *blah lahblah"


Like I said, asking a girl out does not have to be a big deal. The worst you can do is overthink it

 

[JaegerPilot217]

By the time you're asking a girl to spend personal time with you you should already have a good sense of her interest level.


Trust me, when you see a girl from your class at lunch and eat with her then after class she comes up to say hi,

"Hey! Did you wanna get together again some time?"

Is not gonna hurt you!

In fact I believe the reply was,

"*a bit taken aback that I was so direct* uh, sure! Yeah, that sounds fun! *blah lahblah"


Like I said, asking a girl out does not have to be a big deal. The worst you can do is overthink it

well usually not only do girls expect guys to make the first move but they expect the guy to make every other single move thereafter, even asking for the second date and so on

 

[joshinali]

To ask a girls anyways, they still assume that we are flirting, any good way to ask a girl for a date ?