"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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girl said she was having a big fight with her bf last night and told me that it could be good news for me ( im guessing b/c she could b single outta the fight ) and i can slide right in there. Been talking to her today about random stuff but she hasn't brought up the fight about last night. Should I ask about it??
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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myopoh

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No, let her inform you of the status when she is good and ready.
 

seethehoop

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No, she is over valuing her self. Classic move. She assumes you want her and will come running, she is trying to play you. You need to be a challenge. If you ask her you are saying that you want her, she wins. She may not even be that interested she may jus be looking for attention. Play it cool.
 

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If a girl told me I had a chance like that I would make it a point to diss her in the near future. Last thing you want a girl thinking is that she has you in the basket like that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DAmmmn good advice! i never did ask the question but she would throw out how she didnt buy her bf anything for xmas and how shes just waiting for him to break up with her now. All i said to that was " oh yea thats brutal" hahah never had much time to think of what to say

Man im pretty sure she thinks that she has me in the basket! dammmn how do I change that???
 

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aint-no-mystery-yet said:
she didnt buy her bf anything for xmas and how shes just waiting for him to break up with her now.
Yeah, I think that was your opening. So many different ways you could have ripped into her off the back of that.
 

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Well you have already acted in such a way that she knows you like her for sure. I'd just keep contact to a minimum for now, then if the breakup happens have plans with other girl(s) for like 2 weeks. Don't give her any weekend time that's for sure. No immediate gratification by doing what she wants. Maybe see her on a Wednesday or something, just eat something simple or something. Then gradually move her into weekend time if she behaves well enough to earn it. She has to understand that she is competing for your time with another woman.

Since she already knows that you like her, reversing that may come out to harsh for her unfortunately. Rather make her compete for your time with another woman that you are also attracted to. Like that you can maintain that you like her, but this awesome girl you are dating is taking up your time. When she asks you what your doing tell her you are going to dating places (beach at night, cool restaurants, live shows) but leave out with who. So she has to figure your going on a date herself. By telling her the place, you are showing her you will have fun together if she ever makes it into your weekend time slots.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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No no no.

Why are you waiting on the sideline like a ball boy. When you meet a girl who has a boyfriend you need to try to hookup with her within 72 hours. After 72 hours then the chances of you hooking up with her declines. Don't be one of those simp dudes over there texting her phone when she is only stringing you along for your attention. You go ahead and ask her too hookup. If she says no then you charge her to the game.

As a real man you shouldn't be waiting for her and her boyfriend to fight to hook up with her. Show yourself that you have options and you don't have to wait for her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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