"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Asked girl out, got rejected, flush number?

djthiago1

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We got introduced through a friend and we never met in person.
texted her a few times and she seemed quite interested. About a month later (today) i try asking her out.

Me: Hey wanna go out on sunday?

her:Can't, i'm going on a trip tomorrow for a week

Me: ok, so when are you available?

Her:Honestly, i don't know. School starts next week and it's gonna be hard for us to see each other. We should just stick to texting.

Me: Uh? What do you mean just stick to texting?

Her:yes.

Me: The reason i talk to you is because i wanna meet you in person. Not throw messages around lol.

Her: I think it's gonna be pretty much impossible for us to meet.

Next?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Of course it's a next? she blatantly told you she will never voluntarily see you. Send this one to the garbage.
 

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  • Should have called.
  • A month was too long
  • Total lack of interest on her part. Abort.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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djthiago1

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Thorninmyside said:

  • Should have called.
  • A month was too long
  • Total lack of interest on her part. Abort.
Thought about calling too, will probably do that next time, wouldn't have mattered anyway since she's going on a trip.

Why was a month too long? We weren't dating yet. Would have agreed with this if we were.

I agree.
 

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djthiago1 said:
Why was a month too long? We weren't dating yet. Would have agreed with this if we were.
Come on bro, in a month she could have: met another guy, had sex 15 times, got pregnant, and still keep texting you so you could feed her ego and validate her.

From the first text, you should have set the date to meet her within 2 days. A month is way way too long.
 

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You get to pick, your terms or her terms. Personally I'd block her number, social media, all of it.
 

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Trump said:
Come on bro, in a month she could have: met another guy, had sex 15 times, got pregnant, and still keep texting you so you could feed her ego and validate her.

From the first text, you should have set the date to meet her within 2 days. A month is way way too long.
I wasn't out of lazyness or anything, there just was no way we could see each other then. Also we only texted each other twice.
 

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For next time:

You: Hey wanna go out on sunday?

Her: Can't, i'm going on a trip tomorrow for a week

You: ok, so when are you available?

Her: Honestly, i don't know. School starts next week and it's gonna be hard for us to see each other. We should just stick to texting.

You: *Deleted of all platforms before your next eye blink takes place*

That's how fast you should of made her a memory. And next time do it in a day or two after meeting, get right to it so you don't waste time with false hope.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This is like posting "Hey trying to solve 2 + 2" in a math forum. You've got to be kidding me lol. Yes, delete her number. She just wants an orbiter. You down to orbit bro?
 

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Be Her Text Friend

djthiago1 said:
We should just stick to texting.

Her:yes.

Me: The reason i talk to you is because i wanna meet you in person. Not throw messages around lol.
Be her text buddy in the meantime because she'll eventually have a change of heart.
 

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Maximus Rex said:
Be her text buddy in the meantime because she'll eventually have a change of heart.
lol. That joke cracked me up actually.
 

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Yewki said:
This is like posting "Hey trying to solve 2 + 2" in a math forum. You've got to be kidding me lol. Yes, delete her number. She just wants an orbiter. You down to orbit bro?
You actually have to at least slightly applause her honesty. Many girls looking for orbiters would just drag the guy through the mud holding out a golden carrot (i.e. the vagina) as if it's something he could get once he impresses her enough or helps her out with homework. In this case she's saying "I'm looking for an orbiter if you're up for it, in case I get bored and need some attention and no one else is there to give it to me".
 

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I would send her a dic-k picture before I deleted her, just for laughs.

Anyway, your original question (next?) was a lot of fun. Keep it up LMAO...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Deleted her number the same day. I've orbited enough in my lifetime already.
 

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VladPatton said:
For next time:

You: Hey wanna go out on sunday?

Her: Can't, i'm going on a trip tomorrow for a week

You: ok, so when are you available?

Her: Honestly, i don't know. School starts next week and it's gonna be hard for us to see each other. We should just stick to texting.

You: *Deleted of all platforms before your next eye blink takes place*

That's how fast you should of made her a memory. And next time do it in a day or two after meeting, get right to it so you don't waste time with false hope.
Survey says...The #1 answer! He beat me to the punch!

Read the quoted text, save it in your phone in case you think of wanting to wait a month for a new girl!

Case closed.
 

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yes... next for the following reasons....


djthiago1 said:
We got introduced through a friend and we never met in person.
texted her a few times and she seemed quite interested. About a month later (today) i try asking her out.

Me: Hey wanna go out on sunday?

Dont ask. Tell.

her:Can't, i'm going on a trip tomorrow for a week

Wouldn't have replied to this. This reply is too short and not offering anything.

Me: ok, so when are you available?

Her:Honestly, i don't know. School starts next week and it's gonna be hard for us to see each other. We should just stick to texting.

More excuses = low interest. 'Stick to texting' = I'll use you for attention when I'm bored.

Me: Uh? What do you mean just stick to texting?

Her:yes.

She sounds dumb and boring.

Me: The reason i talk to you is because i wanna meet you in person. Not throw messages around lol.

Her: I think it's gonna be pretty much impossible for us to meet.

The end. Don't waste one more second with this one.

Next? Yes.
 
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