"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Asked girl out, got rejected, flush number?

djthiago1

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We got introduced through a friend and we never met in person.
texted her a few times and she seemed quite interested. About a month later (today) i try asking her out.

Me: Hey wanna go out on sunday?

her:Can't, i'm going on a trip tomorrow for a week

Me: ok, so when are you available?

Her:Honestly, i don't know. School starts next week and it's gonna be hard for us to see each other. We should just stick to texting.

Me: Uh? What do you mean just stick to texting?

Her:yes.

Me: The reason i talk to you is because i wanna meet you in person. Not throw messages around lol.

Her: I think it's gonna be pretty much impossible for us to meet.

Next?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Of course it's a next? she blatantly told you she will never voluntarily see you. Send this one to the garbage.
 

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  • Should have called.
  • A month was too long
  • Total lack of interest on her part. Abort.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Thorninmyside said:

  • Should have called.
  • A month was too long
  • Total lack of interest on her part. Abort.
Thought about calling too, will probably do that next time, wouldn't have mattered anyway since she's going on a trip.

Why was a month too long? We weren't dating yet. Would have agreed with this if we were.

I agree.
 

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djthiago1 said:
Why was a month too long? We weren't dating yet. Would have agreed with this if we were.
Come on bro, in a month she could have: met another guy, had sex 15 times, got pregnant, and still keep texting you so you could feed her ego and validate her.

From the first text, you should have set the date to meet her within 2 days. A month is way way too long.
 

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You get to pick, your terms or her terms. Personally I'd block her number, social media, all of it.
 

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Trump said:
Come on bro, in a month she could have: met another guy, had sex 15 times, got pregnant, and still keep texting you so you could feed her ego and validate her.

From the first text, you should have set the date to meet her within 2 days. A month is way way too long.
I wasn't out of lazyness or anything, there just was no way we could see each other then. Also we only texted each other twice.
 

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For next time:

You: Hey wanna go out on sunday?

Her: Can't, i'm going on a trip tomorrow for a week

You: ok, so when are you available?

Her: Honestly, i don't know. School starts next week and it's gonna be hard for us to see each other. We should just stick to texting.

You: *Deleted of all platforms before your next eye blink takes place*

That's how fast you should of made her a memory. And next time do it in a day or two after meeting, get right to it so you don't waste time with false hope.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is like posting "Hey trying to solve 2 + 2" in a math forum. You've got to be kidding me lol. Yes, delete her number. She just wants an orbiter. You down to orbit bro?
 

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Be Her Text Friend

djthiago1 said:
We should just stick to texting.

Her:yes.

Me: The reason i talk to you is because i wanna meet you in person. Not throw messages around lol.
Be her text buddy in the meantime because she'll eventually have a change of heart.
 

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Maximus Rex said:
Be her text buddy in the meantime because she'll eventually have a change of heart.
lol. That joke cracked me up actually.
 

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Yewki said:
This is like posting "Hey trying to solve 2 + 2" in a math forum. You've got to be kidding me lol. Yes, delete her number. She just wants an orbiter. You down to orbit bro?
You actually have to at least slightly applause her honesty. Many girls looking for orbiters would just drag the guy through the mud holding out a golden carrot (i.e. the vagina) as if it's something he could get once he impresses her enough or helps her out with homework. In this case she's saying "I'm looking for an orbiter if you're up for it, in case I get bored and need some attention and no one else is there to give it to me".
 

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I would send her a dic-k picture before I deleted her, just for laughs.

Anyway, your original question (next?) was a lot of fun. Keep it up LMAO...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Deleted her number the same day. I've orbited enough in my lifetime already.
 

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VladPatton said:
For next time:

You: Hey wanna go out on sunday?

Her: Can't, i'm going on a trip tomorrow for a week

You: ok, so when are you available?

Her: Honestly, i don't know. School starts next week and it's gonna be hard for us to see each other. We should just stick to texting.

You: *Deleted of all platforms before your next eye blink takes place*

That's how fast you should of made her a memory. And next time do it in a day or two after meeting, get right to it so you don't waste time with false hope.
Survey says...The #1 answer! He beat me to the punch!

Read the quoted text, save it in your phone in case you think of wanting to wait a month for a new girl!

Case closed.
 

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yes... next for the following reasons....


djthiago1 said:
We got introduced through a friend and we never met in person.
texted her a few times and she seemed quite interested. About a month later (today) i try asking her out.

Me: Hey wanna go out on sunday?

Dont ask. Tell.

her:Can't, i'm going on a trip tomorrow for a week

Wouldn't have replied to this. This reply is too short and not offering anything.

Me: ok, so when are you available?

Her:Honestly, i don't know. School starts next week and it's gonna be hard for us to see each other. We should just stick to texting.

More excuses = low interest. 'Stick to texting' = I'll use you for attention when I'm bored.

Me: Uh? What do you mean just stick to texting?

Her:yes.

She sounds dumb and boring.

Me: The reason i talk to you is because i wanna meet you in person. Not throw messages around lol.

Her: I think it's gonna be pretty much impossible for us to meet.

The end. Don't waste one more second with this one.

Next? Yes.
 
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