"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ask her out

escaleraroyal

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How to ask her out on the phone?

I usually go.
Hey this is joe, how is it going?

How was your day?

Are you free tomorrow or wednesday to have a coffee?


Need pro answers
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Desdinova

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If I'm meeting her for the first time, I usually say "Well, I gotta go, but we should continue this conversation. Why don't you give me your number and we'll set something up."

If I already have her number, it's more like "We should do something together. How does xxxday evening sound?" If she asks what we should do, I always have something planned. "Well, there's this glow-in-the-dark mini golf place I've been meaning to check out. How about that?"

These work much better than "you wanna go out with me?"
 

PDubb75

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escaleraroyal said:
how do you transfer her from mini golf to your room?
Usually by car.

But seriously... I don't mean to sound like an a$$hole here, but you need to read the DJ Bible. The problem with that question is that it would take way too long to give a proper answer here. You need to create an understanding of what to do when, not go by a bullet point list anyone on this particular thread can give. You have been here since early 2008, and this is a very basic question. However, the answer is not.

One thing I can say: kino.
 
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