"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Asian guys with no facial hair

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Male Asian male here 22 years old. I have facial hair but its just the moustache and some under the chin. I cannot grow a beard but I do not see many Asian males who have a beard. Basically all my facial hair is my moustache, which isn't much and the hair under my chin.

Most of my friends my age are pretty much the same except maybe 1 or 2 can grow a beard. I know most guys other than Asian grow facial hair and have tons of it at my age already.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think i confused eveyrone then. I meant to say do any of you see many Asian males with a lot of facial hair, like beards? I live in NYC btw.
 

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Lol, im 22 and south-asian. And have a beard, so do most of my mates.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cr1msonKing said:
What does have to do with progressing with your life?

I have hair on my face, and on my ass. Do you want my ass hair? Cuz most girls don't like it
A beard makes you look more mature(=more attractive).
 

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"Your right, a beard makes you LOOK more mature. It doesn't actually make you more mature/masculine/attractive."

The looking mature was the important bit I believe. It affects the way women see you, whether its true or not.

Having said that, you make the most of what you have. Dwelling over things that can't be changed is pointless.
 

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trv26 said:
"Your right, a beard makes you LOOK more mature. It doesn't actually make you more mature/masculine/attractive."

The looking mature was the important bit I believe. It affects the way women see you, whether its true or not.

Having said that, you make the most of what you have. Dwelling over things that can't be changed is pointless.
most girls like it when you're clean shaven..

anyway i'm asian i only have hair on my tache and chin but who cares
 

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... I am not the emotional type crimson. I dont understand the need for that comment.

Did you get a heartbreak from a girl which is why you say this? I was just asking a question. You make it seem like it is the end of the world LOL.:eek:
 

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IMO, if you can't go all the way (with a beard), go completely clean cut. It usually is more attractive to girls anyway.

I can't stand the "half beards" or "semi moustaches" some guys have now. Not only does it show that they can't grow good facial hair, but it just looks stupid.

Go clean cut, asian or not.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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South-Asia = India, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, Bangladesh, etc....

I'm Korean and it's pretty much the same with me. I know a few people (East Asian of some sort) that can grow facial hair. None of them let it grow out though.

Which borough are you from?

Cr1mson, I think the OP was asking it more out of curiosity than anything else.
 

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you mean like this guy...



or this guy?



forget it man. Chinese can't grow facial hair
 

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Haha, I don't think he meant South Asian. Most Indian and Pakistani dudes don't have a problem with facial hair or hair in any other region!

It's rare to see an East Asian man with full facial hair. I'm hard pressed to think of any that I know, but I have seen a few.

I don't have a problem growing facial hair, but I choose to stay clean shaven most of the time.

Not every guy looks good with facial hair, but almost any guy can look good clean shaven. It's neat and clean. Most chicks I know seem to prefer the clean shaven look. Sometimes, they'll have phases when they want their boyfriend/husband to try a more rugged Grizzly Adams look.
 

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Yeah, I don't think OP means south asian. It seems to come with culture and religion in those areas to grow a beard, and as such I see a lot of Indian and Pakistani men, for example, with a lot of facial hair.

OP, are you East asian? (like Chinese for example)

I haven't seen many Chinese men who have a lot of facial hair.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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