The Gambler said:
Ain't this the truth! I am a regular looking guy who decided to start dressing well, get more fit and tighten up my game about a year ago. Man, have I seen a huge difference with the way both women and men communicate with me. Just by showing some effort, you're propelling yourself up to the top 25% of people who are noticed.
Tru dat. Even if you think you're not good looking, or don't get a lot of attention - if you get in shape, dress well, and take care of your appearance - you'd be suprised by how good looking women find you. It can't be stressed enough how important being in shape is. You can go from being overweight and slobby-cute to fit and hot (in their eyes) just like that. It also boosts your confidence up - just knowing you take care of yourself, and people acknowledge and appreciate it.
Women do the same ****. I used to date girls who showed me pics of how they used to be, and the differences were huge - when they lost weight, wore sexy clothing, applied make up, etc. I also used to show them my old ID card, and they'd bust out laughing - because I looked so horrible back then. But with the changes made, they were actually dating and liking me now - as they were saying these things - instead of just ignoring me. Granted, they were stuck up, egotistical *****es as a result of their new-found "hotness", and crazy and insecure as a result of their previous fatness, but whatever.
I ended up slipping back for a few years - got fat, dressed like ****, wore pajamas everywhere (ha ha), never got a haircut or shaved, hated the world, didn't give a **** about anything, etc - and chicks were pretty much ignoring me again. Finally got over that hump recently, lost a decent chunk of weight (still got more to go), dressing nicely again, being more positive, social, and confident - and chicks are back to staring, touching, smiling, laughing, complimenting, remembering details, wanting to be around and getting to know me again, etc. Granted, they're not as forward or aggressive or sexual as I'm used to, but they're not all crazy sex fiend *****s down her, either.
Will be interesting to see what happens once I actually get fully back into shape, go out more, and get a life again, but things are definitely looking up so far - like they used to be.
So much wasted time and opportunity people lose by not being shape or taking care of their appearance, looking unhappy, and being anti-social. It's all basic ****, too. Present yourself in an appealing, approachable fashion, and people will come. Then add in a solid, fun personality with good conversational skills, and you're good to go.