As a man, I should go and get what I want vs. as a man, I should not go after a woman if she seems cold?

[nelysses]

I saw a girl recently. I wrote her on Instagram because I had no connection. She replied but only replied. She didn't ask me anything in return and gave very short answers. After 3-4 messages, I stopped writing because she became cold.
A few days ago, I saw her with her friends at school. Today, she passed me in the library but I don't know how to act.
I pass by without looking at her but do I look like I got rejected and have ridiculous complexes?
But if I say hello, will it be like she got rejected and is still coming by?

 

[Clockwerk50]

She is not that into you. Keep it moving.

 

[nelysses]

She is not that into you. Keep it moving.

not just this girl specifically. As I said, I didn't have a conversation with this girl and I still don't. I didn't even go and talk to her so that people wouldn't say "I rejected her but she's still after me" when I saw her. I'm asking in general. I want something in general. I say the man should go and get it, but on the other hand I wonder if I should put effort into it.

 

[Clockwerk50]

not just this girl specifically. As I said, I didn't have a conversation with this girl and I still don't. I didn't even go and talk to her so that people wouldn't say "I rejected her but she's still after me" when I saw her. I'm asking in general. I want something in general. I say the man should go and get it, but on the other hand I wonder if I should put effort into it.

I saw a girl recently. I wrote her on Instagram because I had no connection. She replied but only replied. She didn't ask me anything in return and gave very short answers. After 3-4 messages, I stopped writing because she became cold.

When you mentioned this information, it clearly means the girl is not interested in having a romantic relationship with you.

Anyway, since you’ve already messaged her:

If you walk by and ignore her or act like you don’t see her, it makes you look shy, bitter, or like someone who’s afraid to have a real conversation and only has the courage to communicate online.

If you say hello, it makes you appear confident, friendly, and sociable. It’s not always about sex or romance.

Yes, a man should pursue what he wants. However, a good hunter plays the odds, and it’s futile to chase someone who has emotionally shut down, is inaccessible, and isn’t open to your influence. Time is too short for that.

PS: you may get more bang for your buck if you use a program to translate what you are trying to convey from your native tongue to English.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I saw a girl recently. I wrote her on Instagram because I had no connection. She replied but only replied. She didn't ask me anything in return and gave very short answers. After 3-4 messages, I stopped writing because she became cold.
A few days ago, I saw her with her friends at school. Today, she passed me in the library but I don't know how to act.
I pass by without looking at her but do I look like I got rejected and have ridiculous complexes?
But if I say hello, will it be like she got rejected and is still coming by?

You should have just asked her out on IG and got closure.

It does seem as if she has low to zero interest in you, so either..

1. Ask her, and remove all doubt.

2. Leave her alone and pursue women who displays more interest.

 

[BaronOfHair]

A few days ago, I saw her with her friends at school. Today, she passed me in the library but I don't know how to act.

By preparing for The 5-0 to investigate you for stalking this chick

 

[corrector]

But if I say hello, will it be like she got rejected and is still coming by?

You mean you got rejected? She went cold on you not the other way around.

 

[BPH]

@nelysses stop f***ing messaging chicks on Instagram.

Talk to these people in the real f***ing world you moron. I don't know how many times you've been given this advice.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Whatever you do OP, never incorporate any multivariable models in your decision making. Black and white is the only way to look at things.

DO NOT, repeat DO NOT consider your desires and her interest at the same time. Pick on variable only or you'll die from the confusion.

 

[MatureDJ]

I saw a girl recently. I wrote her on Instagram because I had no connection. She replied but only replied. She didn't ask me anything in return and gave very short answers. After 3-4 messages, I stopped writing because she became cold.
A few days ago, I saw her with her friends at school. Today, she passed me in the library but I don't know how to act.
I pass by without looking at her but do I look like I got rejected and have ridiculous complexes?
But if I say hello, will it be like she got rejected and is still coming by?

You are NOTHING to her. Go spin more plates.

 

[sevbucmash]

not just this girl specifically

Bruh. Problem is you're a nobody and your name is joe shmoe.

Go to gym, join the football team if you fit for it. If not, perhaps baseball. If you don't fit any of these sports then screw it, just be fit. Join some community events, etc.. Become somebody. So that the girls when they see you talk about you, oh that guy is that and that.

 

[New_Journey]

I don't know how to act.

You don't have to put an act. Why do wanna appear something you're not, like being strong when you are nervous.

If you are indeed nervous, then be nervous, you got the medium she's not interested so leave her alone. Yo don't have to act a certain way. You are going to put so much effort of an "act" for a girl who became cold? No even for a wife of many years a guy should do that effort.

For this opportunity and next ones, drill this into you head. Who The Fvck Cares? Do Not Give $hit.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I'm asking in general. I want something in general. I say the man should go and get it, but on the other hand I wonder if I should put effort into it.

Paraphrase Dilbert: Put in zero effort. You'll be spared rejection and criticism, even if you'll also not get what you desire