"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WORKEROUTER

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I have been doing a lot of stuff with this girl, and we pretty much act like girlfriend/boyfriend, but have never really talked about ourselves being in that kind of relationship. I wouldn't mind having a relationship with her. Do you guys ask a girl to be your girlfriend (seems pretty AFC), or do you wait for her to mention it?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wait for her to bring it up.
 

Adrian

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MAKE HER bring that sh!t up. DJ her until she can't take anymore and asks YOU.
 

Adrian

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well.... I make it sound easier than it seems, don't I?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ok the hard and fast rule is to DJ the girl until she asks you

the thing is, from my experience, is that you must also be aware of the type of girl you are DJ'ing. I DJ'ed a girl for ages, it drove her crazy, but she never brought up the relationship thing (which i was cool with), but when she stopped letting me kiss her / didn't respond, it started to piss me off.

in the end, it turns out that all she was waiting for, was for me to mention somethings. the reason for this, is that she was the shy type of girl that didn't want to assume anything, and her values basically meant she would try to refrain from kissing a guy unless he asked her out first.

needless to say, i DJ'ed her for ages, and ignored her for a week / played cold games with her, and she was really upset and mopey over me. eventually i told her to come over, and i asked her out cuz i could see how mopey and disraught she was. she later told me that she wouldn't have made a mve if i had continued to ignore / DJ her, despite her interest in me.

so KNOW what the girl you're chasing is like. some girls would be more direct than the one i'm currently dating

it is good to DJ constantly to keep her on her toes, but some women will not speak no matter what. SO kNOW if she's a HOE and not giving it up to u cuz she has no interest ---- or if she's interested, but she's just too shy and wants the guy to make the first move.
 
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