"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This may be a bit abstract, but if you can relate, or if you have anything to say, please leave a reply, comment, opinion, or anything.

Sometimes i feel like an artificial don juan. What do i mean?

I worked very hard to get at where i am. If it wasn't for some life tips from this site, a few books, and my super awesome uncle, i don't know where i will be at.

The thing is, I don't feel real. My friends are some of the most attractive dudes you'll see. We are intelligent (in terms of school, calculus, chem, bio, physics, etc), play decent sports, etc. We will probably get into a decent UC.

The thing is, I feel like i have to work very hard just to keep up. I spent almost a year in self improvement, and i don't plan to stop. My arms are more lean, my skin is a lot more clear, my body is taking shape nicely, and i study hard to keep up.

I require a lot of effort, while my friends are a lot more natural. I know there is nothing wrong with what i do, but its nice to chill out and relax. Even though i require much more effort to keep up, through the eyes of others, we appear to be equal.

It's just hard, ya know? They can go home and play star craft but i need to spend that time to improve myself to keep up with them. The results are nice, though, but some people carry it so effortlessly.

Thats cool though, I'm just here to point out that not everyone is equal and that self-improvement is a good way to go no matter who you are.

Some people start off higher off the ladder of success, while some start lower. No one is equal, but self improvement will move you up the ladder.

You guys follow?

I know the more you work on yourself, the more others (especially people you don't know) will notice you. They will start approaching you, and you'll be saying "Damn, Not only did i not approach her or ever seen her, but here she is, fine as hell, trying to get me"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When you enjoy what you're doing, it will feel natural. If you're doing it for someone, for something, or the hope of some end result...then you're not truly enjoying the journey of it. Do it for yourself.

I'm not saying I've mastered this myself either. I still find it hard to do things for myself in some aspects of life, but this is the lesson I have learned.
 

Interceptor

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Precursor, ..dude...you're just a kid. You're only 17.

Seventeen.

Your whole life is about self improvement. Not just one year. Or two years.
It's a continual process. Because to live is to grow.This is physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
It will happen top you sooner or later. Might as well get on the right track and stay there.
You're doing fine.

To be here on Earth is to not want to BE Stagnant.
You will have no choice but to grow eventually.


You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't start pissing and moaning now when you're basically still a kid.

Now...having said that. Let's address your "problems".

What are they exactly?
 

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Good post.

Though are you sure your friends don't work hard to acheive their level of success and you just don't see the effort they put in?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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