"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This may be a bit abstract, but if you can relate, or if you have anything to say, please leave a reply, comment, opinion, or anything.

Sometimes i feel like an artificial don juan. What do i mean?

I worked very hard to get at where i am. If it wasn't for some life tips from this site, a few books, and my super awesome uncle, i don't know where i will be at.

The thing is, I don't feel real. My friends are some of the most attractive dudes you'll see. We are intelligent (in terms of school, calculus, chem, bio, physics, etc), play decent sports, etc. We will probably get into a decent UC.

The thing is, I feel like i have to work very hard just to keep up. I spent almost a year in self improvement, and i don't plan to stop. My arms are more lean, my skin is a lot more clear, my body is taking shape nicely, and i study hard to keep up.

I require a lot of effort, while my friends are a lot more natural. I know there is nothing wrong with what i do, but its nice to chill out and relax. Even though i require much more effort to keep up, through the eyes of others, we appear to be equal.

It's just hard, ya know? They can go home and play star craft but i need to spend that time to improve myself to keep up with them. The results are nice, though, but some people carry it so effortlessly.

Thats cool though, I'm just here to point out that not everyone is equal and that self-improvement is a good way to go no matter who you are.

Some people start off higher off the ladder of success, while some start lower. No one is equal, but self improvement will move you up the ladder.

You guys follow?

I know the more you work on yourself, the more others (especially people you don't know) will notice you. They will start approaching you, and you'll be saying "Damn, Not only did i not approach her or ever seen her, but here she is, fine as hell, trying to get me"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When you enjoy what you're doing, it will feel natural. If you're doing it for someone, for something, or the hope of some end result...then you're not truly enjoying the journey of it. Do it for yourself.

I'm not saying I've mastered this myself either. I still find it hard to do things for myself in some aspects of life, but this is the lesson I have learned.
 

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Precursor, ..dude...you're just a kid. You're only 17.

Seventeen.

Your whole life is about self improvement. Not just one year. Or two years.
It's a continual process. Because to live is to grow.This is physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
It will happen top you sooner or later. Might as well get on the right track and stay there.
You're doing fine.

To be here on Earth is to not want to BE Stagnant.
You will have no choice but to grow eventually.


You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't start pissing and moaning now when you're basically still a kid.

Now...having said that. Let's address your "problems".

What are they exactly?
 

KontrollerX

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Good post.

Though are you sure your friends don't work hard to acheive their level of success and you just don't see the effort they put in?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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