MatureDJ
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Why Is Dating in the App Era Such Hard Work?
Finding love in the postromantic, postmarital age
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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My guess is most people, specially girls, are unrealistic about their own SMV and expect more than they are worth.
speed dawg
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I still don't understand why any of you mess with apps, outside of simply playing the numbers game in order to get laid and nothing else.
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Article was too boring to fully read, lost half-way. Lost me when it said that dating is now easier for men then it is for women and talking about fetish stuff. It makes it sound like its more difficult for women - just like your previous article talking about women wasting their time with tonnes of boring and uninteresting men and how things are difficult for them. Cry me a river. Why are you choosing these types of articles?Why Is Dating in the App Era Such Hard Work?
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MatureDJ
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Uh, because my brilliant mind needs a heavy dose of intellectual discourse?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Because social media gives women all the male attention they desire.
Ive come to the conclusion that anything to do with the internet is in the females favour always - In terms of status , the attention they get and unlimited choices. cos men particularly are like dogs who heel when whistled. its pvussy power at its worst - what needs to happen is your value needs to scale up massively and stay there without marriage it pulls like a magnet - has anyone experienced this when working on their value?
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So you like reading articles written by women for women? How is any of this helpful?
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The problem is one in particular, lazy guys who think that wasting 2 min to flood a random girl with compliments may or may not help but its worth the try.
This simple action multiplied 100 times turns a girl into a diva in her head with all the conseguences we know from an incorrent perception of her SMV, and incorrect perception of her LMS and most of all a fake abundance of avabilable option most of whom way above her league.
Plus this d1ckheads decrease the value of male attention since they get it abundantly and with no effort required, nothing like that happened before social networks and dating apps.
An even more perverse cycle is that while girls demands grow, guys requests decrease as guys with no girls are seen as "losers" as if a mans worth was based on having a woman.
It's a vicious cycle that doesnt break untill too late when girls are post wall and older guys simply dropped the towel and moved to other things.
This simple action multiplied 100 times turns a girl into a diva in her head with all the conseguences we know from an incorrent perception of her SMV, and incorrect perception of her LMS and most of all a fake abundance of avabilable option most of whom way above her league.
Plus this d1ckheads decrease the value of male attention since they get it abundantly and with no effort required, nothing like that happened before social networks and dating apps.
An even more perverse cycle is that while girls demands grow, guys requests decrease as guys with no girls are seen as "losers" as if a mans worth was based on having a woman.
It's a vicious cycle that doesnt break untill too late when girls are post wall and older guys simply dropped the towel and moved to other things.