MatureDJ
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Why Is Dating in the App Era Such Hard Work?
Finding love in the postromantic, postmarital age
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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My guess is most people, specially girls, are unrealistic about their own SMV and expect more than they are worth.
speed dawg
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I still don't understand why any of you mess with apps, outside of simply playing the numbers game in order to get laid and nothing else.
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Article was too boring to fully read, lost half-way. Lost me when it said that dating is now easier for men then it is for women and talking about fetish stuff. It makes it sound like its more difficult for women - just like your previous article talking about women wasting their time with tonnes of boring and uninteresting men and how things are difficult for them. Cry me a river. Why are you choosing these types of articles?Why Is Dating in the App Era Such Hard Work?
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MatureDJ
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Uh, because my brilliant mind needs a heavy dose of intellectual discourse?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Because social media gives women all the male attention they desire.
Ive come to the conclusion that anything to do with the internet is in the females favour always - In terms of status , the attention they get and unlimited choices. cos men particularly are like dogs who heel when whistled. its pvussy power at its worst - what needs to happen is your value needs to scale up massively and stay there without marriage it pulls like a magnet - has anyone experienced this when working on their value?
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So you like reading articles written by women for women? How is any of this helpful?
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The problem is one in particular, lazy guys who think that wasting 2 min to flood a random girl with compliments may or may not help but its worth the try.
This simple action multiplied 100 times turns a girl into a diva in her head with all the conseguences we know from an incorrent perception of her SMV, and incorrect perception of her LMS and most of all a fake abundance of avabilable option most of whom way above her league.
Plus this d1ckheads decrease the value of male attention since they get it abundantly and with no effort required, nothing like that happened before social networks and dating apps.
An even more perverse cycle is that while girls demands grow, guys requests decrease as guys with no girls are seen as "losers" as if a mans worth was based on having a woman.
It's a vicious cycle that doesnt break untill too late when girls are post wall and older guys simply dropped the towel and moved to other things.
This simple action multiplied 100 times turns a girl into a diva in her head with all the conseguences we know from an incorrent perception of her SMV, and incorrect perception of her LMS and most of all a fake abundance of avabilable option most of whom way above her league.
Plus this d1ckheads decrease the value of male attention since they get it abundantly and with no effort required, nothing like that happened before social networks and dating apps.
An even more perverse cycle is that while girls demands grow, guys requests decrease as guys with no girls are seen as "losers" as if a mans worth was based on having a woman.
It's a vicious cycle that doesnt break untill too late when girls are post wall and older guys simply dropped the towel and moved to other things.