MatureDJ
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
article: Why American men are getting less marriageable
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
zekko
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It says traditional gender roles are to blame (partly). Pfft. It's more like the lack of traditional gender roles is to blame.
It does have a point though, when it points out that the US has moved to a service economy, and the majority of these jobs are traditionally female. I wrote in another thread somewhere that women's noncompetitive, nonaggressive, social, and nurturing nature make them excellent and preferred servers (in a variety of forms).
It does have a point though, when it points out that the US has moved to a service economy, and the majority of these jobs are traditionally female. I wrote in another thread somewhere that women's noncompetitive, nonaggressive, social, and nurturing nature make them excellent and preferred servers (in a variety of forms).
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I agree with you, and I would like to add that most people would like to get served from a waitress rather than a waiter generally.
Last week I went to a fastfood and found a tall strong well built guy working behind the counter, for some reason I wasnt at ease, it was just like we both knew he was out of place there.
Same thing happens when theres a fight at the club and the police station sends short fat women to check it, no matter how hard they try we subconsciously feel like they are out of place.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
zekko
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Agreed, I've even heard women say they would rather have a waitress than a waiter. It's just a more pleasant experience. And women can be less intrusive when it's called for also. Men tend to want to have some sort of commanding presence, the testosterone gets in the way.