MatureDJ
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"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
article: Why American men are getting less marriageable
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
zekko
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It says traditional gender roles are to blame (partly). Pfft. It's more like the lack of traditional gender roles is to blame.
It does have a point though, when it points out that the US has moved to a service economy, and the majority of these jobs are traditionally female. I wrote in another thread somewhere that women's noncompetitive, nonaggressive, social, and nurturing nature make them excellent and preferred servers (in a variety of forms).
It does have a point though, when it points out that the US has moved to a service economy, and the majority of these jobs are traditionally female. I wrote in another thread somewhere that women's noncompetitive, nonaggressive, social, and nurturing nature make them excellent and preferred servers (in a variety of forms).
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I agree with you, and I would like to add that most people would like to get served from a waitress rather than a waiter generally.
Last week I went to a fastfood and found a tall strong well built guy working behind the counter, for some reason I wasnt at ease, it was just like we both knew he was out of place there.
Same thing happens when theres a fight at the club and the police station sends short fat women to check it, no matter how hard they try we subconsciously feel like they are out of place.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Agreed, I've even heard women say they would rather have a waitress than a waiter. It's just a more pleasant experience. And women can be less intrusive when it's called for also. Men tend to want to have some sort of commanding presence, the testosterone gets in the way.