MatureDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
article: What It’s Like to Be a 58-Year-Old Virgin
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scaramouche
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Dear MDJ,
That's soo sad!
That's soo sad!
Mike32ct
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I think the world record is a guy in his 60s. It's very sad, but it happens.
It gets more and more difficult to lose it as you get older.
At that point, the only thing you can do is hire a professional.
It gets more and more difficult to lose it as you get older.
At that point, the only thing you can do is hire a professional.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Who Dares Win
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Well if weak afc fathers create so many problems to many users in this forum, you can guess what a psyco like his fathers made.
Awfully the ability to have sex while it doesnt measure your value as man, is a good benchmark of how you stay physically, mentally and emotionally.
This guy had serious problems, a family which fvcked up his personality and self esteem, that eye which probably gave him a weird look, being skinny and looking weak.
To that add that he live in the west where there are no such things beyond look and success to value someone, Im surprised we're not into an other spree killer discussion.
Awfully the ability to have sex while it doesnt measure your value as man, is a good benchmark of how you stay physically, mentally and emotionally.
This guy had serious problems, a family which fvcked up his personality and self esteem, that eye which probably gave him a weird look, being skinny and looking weak.
To that add that he live in the west where there are no such things beyond look and success to value someone, Im surprised we're not into an other spree killer discussion.
Mike32ct
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Sadly, there is no real help available for these guys. IMO, therapists are not experienced with this or familiar with this problem at all. Some of these guys then turn to seduction gurus who rip them off.
Bible_Belt
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I know a 40 y/o virgin. He is a great case study about the things that repel women.
He grew up in the house next door to mine. We rode the same school bus and had a lot of classes together. I never saw him even talk to a girl. He's not gay; he's just dorky and repels women. I wouldn't call him attractive, but he isn't short or fat.
The guy in the article is poor. My virgin friend isn't. He is literally a rocket scientist. His million dollar home should be paid off any time now, and he is considering an early retirement. He travels extensively wherever he feels like going.
The problem is his choices in life. Every single thing he is interested in is chick repellent. He goes to every Comic-con, as well as several other "-con" conventions that I don't really understand. (dragon-con?) He's into computer games, but really weird obscure role-playing ones. He writes how-to manuals for these weird games. He doesn't have a single normal hobby or social interest.
He's on facebook every night talking about making dinner, working in the yard, and any mundane thing, which is what lonely people do. Sometimes he complains about crushing loneliness and "another night spent alone." I can see girls who start out as interested in him over facebook become immediately chased away by his needy personality and low self-esteem.
I know his older brother used to beat him up when they were kids. Maybe that is the source of his low self-image. There's no reason why he wouldn't be the perfect candidate for a mail-order bride, other than just not thinking he is worthy of any woman. And that attitude is what has probably kept him from getting one his entire life.
He grew up in the house next door to mine. We rode the same school bus and had a lot of classes together. I never saw him even talk to a girl. He's not gay; he's just dorky and repels women. I wouldn't call him attractive, but he isn't short or fat.
The guy in the article is poor. My virgin friend isn't. He is literally a rocket scientist. His million dollar home should be paid off any time now, and he is considering an early retirement. He travels extensively wherever he feels like going.
The problem is his choices in life. Every single thing he is interested in is chick repellent. He goes to every Comic-con, as well as several other "-con" conventions that I don't really understand. (dragon-con?) He's into computer games, but really weird obscure role-playing ones. He writes how-to manuals for these weird games. He doesn't have a single normal hobby or social interest.
He's on facebook every night talking about making dinner, working in the yard, and any mundane thing, which is what lonely people do. Sometimes he complains about crushing loneliness and "another night spent alone." I can see girls who start out as interested in him over facebook become immediately chased away by his needy personality and low self-esteem.
I know his older brother used to beat him up when they were kids. Maybe that is the source of his low self-image. There's no reason why he wouldn't be the perfect candidate for a mail-order bride, other than just not thinking he is worthy of any woman. And that attitude is what has probably kept him from getting one his entire life.
zekko
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That just goes to show how it isn't enough to have hobbies and interests. They have to be hobbies that involve some social interaction, and preferably both genders, for them to be of any use in attracting women. You can't just sit in the house and play video games, although I know several women who are heavily into computer games themselves.Bible_Belt said:
Nerds aren't necessarily automatically repellent to women like they used to be, IMO. But by the time a guy reaches 40 and has never gotten laid, his mind has to be a series of booby traps that will blow up in his face anytime he even gets close to having some success with women. Plus he's not going to have any skill, and that can't help him either. The poor bastards, I feel for them, I really do.
Absurd.
But there are more virgins around than you might think. Some men (and women) are asexual.
If a man is attracted to women and still a virgin in his 50's then he just doesn't want it bad enough. It's not that hard to get laid. Even regards get laid. And you can always pay a prostitute if you're determined to get laid.
But there are more virgins around than you might think. Some men (and women) are asexual.
If a man is attracted to women and still a virgin in his 50's then he just doesn't want it bad enough. It's not that hard to get laid. Even regards get laid. And you can always pay a prostitute if you're determined to get laid.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
VladPatton
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Get those social circles a-spinnin', homies.
Mike32ct
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Good for you.letsplay said:well... I lost it a few months back :rockon: 2014. was good for me
btownbuck2012
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just like a few other guys have pointed out at that point how the hell do you not bang a hooker?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
He mentioned in the article that he'd rather not know the pleasure of sex otherwise it'll leave him wanting more.btownbuck2012 said:
Really feel for the guy though - sounds like he had the worst upbringing which has screwed him over for life..