"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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article: What Happens When the Woman Wants Sex Way More Than the Man?

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http://www.alternet.org/sex/152805/..._unfair_sex_stereotypes_strain_relationships/

I have a hunch that young women who have trouble getting men interested in sex must just be ugly. I just can't fathom a decently attractive young woman not having any interested beaus. As for the sex starved middle aged housewife, in all likelihood she has developed a matronly physique. Most men do not want to nail a butterball. :down:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dear MDJ,
I think your take on this a trifle hasty....Bettina Arndt in her book Sex Diaries,records that in relationships with skewed sexual desire,7% were with Ladies who found their Men were not up to it...
One of my Plates some time ago,in across the pillow conversation told of a live in lover who never had much interest,needing it initially say once monthly this declining to once every two months...The Lady was hot potatoes,lovely slim figure,mango size breasts,athletic legs,do anything you want...she would need it at least on a weekly basis...The guy survived because he was an amazing Dancer.
 

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Scaramouche said:
...a live in lover who never had much interest,needing it initially say once monthly this declining to once every two months... he was an amazing Dancer.
He was gay. :D
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear MDJ,
I think your take on this a trifle hasty....Bettina Arndt in her book Sex Diaries,records that in relationships with skewed sexual desire,7% were with Ladies who found their Men were not up to it...
One of my Plates some time ago,in across the pillow conversation told of a live in lover who never had much interest,needing it initially say once monthly this declining to once every two months...The Lady was hot potatoes,lovely slim figure,mango size breasts,athletic legs,do anything you want...she would need it at least on a weekly basis...The guy survived because he was an amazing Dancer.

I knew a girl like this, met her on a dating site, she said her and her ex boyfriend had sex twice a year. Tightest piece I've ever had. Turns out she used me for sex for a couple of months, dropped the bombshell that she was seeing someone else and he came running back. I learned later that this was their pattern. Last time I saw her, they had gotten married and he adopted her kid and they hadn't had sex in 4 months. Bunch of morons the lot of them.
 

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Dear Warrior,
Boy but you have lived....Seriously she has the makings of a Super Dooper Plate...Just for a laugh,give her a ring and see what her reaction is,I am genuinely curious.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Scaramouche said:
Dear Warrior,
Boy but you have lived....Seriously she has the makings of a Super Dooper Plate...Just for a laugh,give her a ring and see what her reaction is,I am genuinely curious.


Um no, I stole bunch of her sci fi dvds the last time I saw her, she doesn't think to kindly of me. But Akira, Fantastic Planet, Dark City, Forbidden Planet and Blade Runner Directors Cut and some tight poon? Worth it. She was one of those nerdy chics with a nice body which was fun, but even if I had her number, I don't do married chics.
 

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She wants more sex than me? I would like to have this problem myself!

Maybe she'll have more money too -- that would be nice :)

A friend of mine had this situation (was with a nympho..couldn't keep up)...seemed like shoes I wouldn't mind being in -- at least for awhile!
 

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I've had a few girls where it was like that. Last one was few years back and she was only 23, was hard to keep up, I'm getting up there in years and I work heavy construction, ahhh to be 18 again! :flowers:
Other was this sex crazed broad I knew who seemed to want to fvck everybody including my friends!
And another was one that I married way ago, come to think of it she wanted to fvck everyone too!
maybe their best steered clear of?
 

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That's what happens if you settle for a girl that you're not really attracted to.

I've been seeing a girl right now who is nice and pretty and everything, but somehow she's not very sexy to me. I'll have to dump her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Maybe our society would be better if we learned from the eskimos or lots of other cultures where women are shared...wives are shared...at least in those societies the context is that men need women, we share what we have, we all care about each other -- there is such a greed that perhaps we in our western world take in our attitude towards everything -- we own another human mentally and sexually in a sense, anyone who touches our prize is damned. But there are real things like trust, and many of us do feel that is important -- I have thought that I could at times be open to polygamy, or having multiple women and letting go of any of my judgement on their choices...just invite them in when they desire to be with me...and let them free into the world with no expectations...but there is this underlying thinking of (a) disease and (b) trust, and maybe there is jealousy or possessiveness at the root of it...

But it does seem hard to be totally OK with a chick banging other dudes...even if we're "open" about it...I'm not sure mentally, at least in this society, as my acculturation has led me these 27 years, to be OK with that...there is a certain level of mental intimacy that I value in monogamy...a genuine care that I do value...that open-ended sex with others would seem to immediately take away from...

All that being said: I would enjoy being with a woman with a strong sexual drive...seems like I've been with some loons in the past..I'm ready for a chick who is crazy about me...but not crazy in the head...is such a thing possible?
 
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