"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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article: The New Domesticity

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http://www.washingtonpost.com/opini.../18/gIQAqkg1vN_story.html?tid=pm_opinions_pop

It seems to me that there is a big swing in attitudes of women back to the traditional, as they see the problems with their "liberation". First it was the barren upper 30-somethings bemoaning their decision to not have been more focused on finding a husband when they were younger with higher sexual market value, now this - women realizing that a lifestyle of hearth and home is preferable to the cubicle rat race.

I welcome this trend. :yes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well this is not shocking....the world is getting harder and colder, jobs are getting scarcer..naturally women want to be huddled inside by the fire while their man is out fighting in the real world.

BUT ARE THEY WILLING TO GIVE UP THEIR FEMINIST 'RIGHTS' TO DO SO.

BECAUSE IF THEY ARE NOT, THEY CANNOT BE PROVIDED THE DOMESTIC COMFORTS OF OLD.

I wonder if men are savvy enough to understand this..I don't think so.

You can't have it both ways ladies, you want the safety of the home..then the man who provides that home must be treated like a king... I don't see THAT in the article. I see talk of 'empowerment through canning!'...get the fvck outta here....
 

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Burroughs said:
Well this is not shocking....the world is getting harder and colder, jobs are getting scarcer..naturally women want to be huddled inside by the fire while their man is out fighting in the real world.

BUT ARE THEY WILLING TO GIVE UP THEIR FEMINIST 'RIGHTS' TO DO SO.

BECAUSE IF THEY ARE NOT, THEY CANNOT BE PROVIDED THE DOMESTIC COMFORTS OF OLD.

I wonder if men are savvy enough to understand this..I don't think so.

You can't have it both ways ladies, you want the safety of the home..then the man who provides that home must be treated like a king... I don't see THAT in the article. I see talk of 'empowerment through canning!'...get the fvck outta here....
Meh. From the article it's just showing that the hipster trends are going mainstream, that's all. All it needs to say how these 30 something women are drinking pbr, wearing flannel shirts and opening esty stores. This is trendy, not a real return to domestic traditional gender roles.
 
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