MatureDJ
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
article: The Men Who Eat Like Boys - Why some guys never outgrow the kid’s menu
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
wifehunter
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Ok, I have a confession to make:
zekko
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The point is most people form their eating habits when they growing up. I can fully believe that, because a lot of my favorite foods and the things I crave are things that my mother fed me. Fortunately, my parents tried to serve balanced meals, so it's not like the guy in the article. But there are still things I struggle with, and things I would probably be better off not eating, or at least eating less of. I think they call this comfort food - food that you associate with good times, that make you feel good when you eat them.
This is one reason I had trouble sticking to a plant based diet when I tried it. I enjoyed it one one level, but ultimately I gave in to my cravings, because there were foods I wanted that I didn't want to do without. It's my weakness though, I accept responsibility for that.
If there's a lesson here, I'd say it would be to instill good eating habits into your children, if you have any. Because those habits can last a lifetime.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hitmanwalking
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It took a health scare at 34 for me to finally change my diet. My blood pressure was through the roof and cholesterol was too high. It took me until this year to switch to oatmeal for breakfast (with yogurt, nuts, and berries) and salads and fruits/vegetables for lunch. The change to my physique has been amazing. Physical fitness and health is really all about diet. Working out isn't enough. I only allow myself to eat meat for dinner.
It is unfortunate but I don't think I am in the minority. Most guys don't do anything about their diet until they have a health problem. The human body is extremely resilient. You can treat it like sh!t for 30-40 years before you run into any problems.
It is unfortunate but I don't think I am in the minority. Most guys don't do anything about their diet until they have a health problem. The human body is extremely resilient. You can treat it like sh!t for 30-40 years before you run into any problems.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
You had me at 'peanut butter'.
