"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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article: The Invisible Men of OkCupid

MatureDJ

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https://modernsexmag.com/2018/04/28/invisible-men-okcupid/
... guy ... with no interesting interests whatsoever very politely said he’d like to get to know me better and implored me to ‘please give him a chance.’ I did not. I felt bad for him academically, but not emotionally.
Then there was Connor (not his real name), who opened with a different kind of gambit. He sent a mini-essay lamenting that he’d been on dating sites for a while and never got any messages or responses.
He gave me two me two examples of opening lines and asked which was better.

Example 1: Hello my name is Connor I would like to get to know you

Example 2: hi im connor how are you today i would like to talk with if that ok I am looking to chat with someone and hopefully we can have good conversations and really get to know each other I am not looking for a one night stand or hook up but a real relationship.
The trouble with replying to a message like Connor’s, even if the plea for help could be taken at face value, is where do you even begin explaining to someone with such low levels of social (and presumably also general) intelligence the basics of evolutionary psychology, the female mind, or how competition works in the sexual marketplace? And what would he do with the information anyway, given that he’d be powerless to change most of the deciding factors in the game? The most immediate and important cue is that he is unattractive. He’s also from a low socioeconomic background, can’t construct a sentence and has chosen a strategy that involves emphasising his low status in the sexual marketplace.
my opinion: Karma is going to be so nice when this chick HITS THE WALL!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kind of interesting insight... but yeah F@$# her...
 

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They are examples of incredibly weak game, they make the guys look like chumps and the women's response is predictable.

Should we give connor a warm cuddle "there there, you just haven't met the right one yet"

Or do we slap him across the chops and wake him from his life of blue pilled failure and despair.

Time to wake up and smell the roses
 
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