"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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article: The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage

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This article is about long term relationships, but I think it relates to the psychology of dating as well. We all know on here that normal is boring and a guy has to strive to build an interesting and fulfilling life ahead of the pursuit of women. Those ideas work because when you improve yourself as a person, you draw a woman up with you, whether she's a wife or a first date. Conversely, if you are not learning something or experiencing new things with a woman, you're just going to get bored of her.


The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage
By TARA PARKER-POPE
December 31, 2010

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/02/weekinreview/02parkerpope.html?src=me&ref=general


"The concept explains why people are delighted when dates treat them to new experiences, like a weekend away. But self-expansion isn’t just about exotic experiences. Individuals experience personal growth through their partners in big and small ways. It happens when they introduce new friends, or casually talk about a new restaurant or a fascinating story in the news."
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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