"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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article: The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage

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This article is about long term relationships, but I think it relates to the psychology of dating as well. We all know on here that normal is boring and a guy has to strive to build an interesting and fulfilling life ahead of the pursuit of women. Those ideas work because when you improve yourself as a person, you draw a woman up with you, whether she's a wife or a first date. Conversely, if you are not learning something or experiencing new things with a woman, you're just going to get bored of her.


The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage
By TARA PARKER-POPE
December 31, 2010

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/02/weekinreview/02parkerpope.html?src=me&ref=general


"The concept explains why people are delighted when dates treat them to new experiences, like a weekend away. But self-expansion isn’t just about exotic experiences. Individuals experience personal growth through their partners in big and small ways. It happens when they introduce new friends, or casually talk about a new restaurant or a fascinating story in the news."
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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