"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Article: The Death of Macho

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Not for ADHD inclined, but very interesting read: http://www.foreignpolicy.com/art/2009/06/18/the_death_of_macho/

...billions of men worldwide, not just a few discredited bankers, will increasingly lose out in the new world taking shape from the current economic wreckage. As women start to gain more of the social, economic, and political power they have long been denied, it will be nothing less than a full-scale revolution the likes of which human civilization has never experienced.

This is not to say that women and men will fight each other across armed barricades. The conflict will take a subtler form, and the main battlefield will be hearts and minds. But make no mistake: The axis of global conflict in this century will not be warring ideologies, or competing geopolitics, or clashing civilizations. It won’t be race or ethnicity. It will be gender. We have no precedent for a world after the death of macho. But we can expect the transition to be wrenching, uneven, and possibly very violent.
There's a related article as well, written by a woman: http://www.foreignpolicy.com/articles/2009/06/19/good_riddance?page=0,0

She reaches a suprising conclusion:
Real gender equality, entailing a meaningful sharing of power within society, may thus be a prerequisite for optimal and rational policymaking, whether for households, countries, or the international community. The booms may not be as explosive, but then again, the busts may not be either.

It used to be said that behind every great man is a great woman. Maybe the scoundrels, hooligans, Genghis Khans, derivatives traders, and debt-securitizers could use a few great women, too—for the sake of the rest of us, if nothing else.
Discuss.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Radninja said:
Not for ADHD inclined, but very interesting read: http://www.foreignpolicy.com/art/2009/06/18/the_death_of_macho/



There's a related article as well, written by a woman: http://www.foreignpolicy.com/articles/2009/06/19/good_riddance?page=0,0

She reaches a suprising conclusion:

Discuss.

Real MEN will be even 10 times easier to spot.

No matter how much 'progressives' try to convince themselves that we are going to wash our nature out of us through brainwashing and education, it won't work.

The all ideal utopia will have a crack somewhere along the line and we'll be right back where we started.
 

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hyped-up gibberish; glance and ignore.
 

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The era of male dominance is coming to an end.
Pure alucination. In the case of my country, women usually takes more jobs related to education ro health, but even in those areas, men are in the bset positions. And when talking about political arena, women are very rare. usually when a woman is a candidate for something, which already is not common, they are already the wife of some other already very well stabilished husband in the area. Most women just dont have any interest in it.
And in the military as well, in my country, there are no women.

And honestly, actress, models, singers, etc, will always be the best choice for a woman when it comes to earning a lot of money.
 

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I would like to propose that there is more than one kind of "macho" man out there.

You have the ego fueled men who's self confidence comes from external achievements such as money, power, cars, houses, etc. These men puff their chests out and who's self-esteem will collapse when their empires crumble (like we've seen for some of those men on Wallstreet).

There are also the 'macho' men who are not ego fueled, but rather their self confidence comes from inner traits like courage, persistence, self-control, etc. These kinds of 'macho' men are the Stoic warriors who accept bad times as a test of their character rather than a sign of armageddon. These kinds of men are 'a man in full' and are generally ignored in the mainstream media.

I think maybe they are ignored because if they weren't then men would (goddess forbid) have actual good role models to look up to.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Luthor Rex said:
I would like to propose that there is more than one kind of "macho" man out there.

You have the ego fueled men who's self confidence comes from external achievements such as money, power, cars, houses, etc. These men puff their chests out and who's self-esteem will collapse when their empires crumble (like we've seen for some of those men on Wallstreet).

There are also the 'macho' men who are not ego fueled, but rather their self confidence comes from inner traits like courage, persistence, self-control, etc. These kinds of 'macho' men are the Stoic warriors who accept bad times as a test of their character rather than a sign of armageddon. These kinds of men are 'a man in full' and are generally ignored in the mainstream media.

I think maybe they are ignored because if they weren't then men would (goddess forbid) have actual good role models to look up to.
Agreed. :up:
 
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