article: People Marrying Their 'Second Choice' Is More Common Than You Think

[MatureDJ]

People Marrying Their 'Second Choice' Is More Common Than You Think

And in most cases, there's nothing wrong with it.

www.huffpost.com

 

[BaronOfHair]

Quote the article: "Maybe it’s because we’re eternally, hopelessly, wedded to our belief in soul mates. Personally, I think the sooner you disabuse yourself of the idea that you have exactly one soul mate wandering the Earth looking for you, the sooner you can date with clear eyes and intention and actually find a decent person.⁸

Bingo!!! This isn't even getting into more dusquieting facts, such as:

-Our "first choice" is frequently some gal we met when both us and her still had baby teeth in our jaws, and believed to be the most divine creation since running water, DESPITE the fact that we'd not even flirted(much less bedded)another girl, at that early stage in our lives. Stands to reason that our first choice is likely to be ill-considered

Or

-The chick who's a suitable fit for us at one moment(Insert your own joke about the direction Barack and Michelle's union seems to be headed, ever since they left The White House) in time likely WILL NOT be at some later date. Similarly, we probably won't always be an ideal fit for them

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Your first choice is sent to you in your 20s but you either lack the skills/logistic to close the deal or you wanna "bang more of them".

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Short term compatibility is not always long term compatibility and sometimes people actually take that into account.

Sometimes people have critical differences that make them simply incompatible no matter how much they want to be compatible.

Neither person should have to sacrifice a key part of who they are in a long term relationship and if they do that means the two people were not compatible to begin with and should never have stayed in the relationship past a certain point.

 

[zekko]

Your first choice is sent to you in your 20s but you either lack the skills/logistic to close the deal or you wanna "bang more of them".

Or you don't have the value. A lot of people might just go for the highest value person they see at first, then learn that either they aren't at that SMV, or that person is a jackass because they are spoiled with options. I don't find the subject line surprising at all.

 

[The Duke]

Your first choice is sent to you in your 20s but you either lack the skills/logistic to close the deal or you wanna "bang more of them".

Or you went for it, married, and got divorced! After that you dated a bunch and gained wisdom that taught you there are no soul mates, just a few good matches but not many.

 

[Manure Spherian]

People Marrying Their 'Second Choice' Is More Common Than You Think

And in most cases, there's nothing wrong with it.

www.huffpost.com

Again, marriage is not for eternal tizzies. When people think of “first choice” they are usually basing that thought on romantic love (who made their hormones boil), not what marriage is actually for!

 

[Gamisch]

You were never her first choice
-Chris Rock