You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes, because at the end of the day if you don't understand core concepts and how/when/why to use them in what situations and even more importantly when NOT to use them, no amount of AI will help with that.ThePrimeTimeAgean, who is a software engineer at Netflix, predicts that AI will widen the gap between experts and beginners. Experts will become better experts, beginners will remain beginners.
For example?And programmer efficiency inevitably leads to a sharp drop in the demand for programmers.
A "sharp drop"?I am a "retired" programmer, and I still speak with friends/colleagues that are still working. One guy in particular told me how his AI bot will, if given the proper prompt, generate the bulk of the code, with programmers like him simply making a few changes. IOW, it VASTLY increases programmer efficiency. And programmer efficiency inevitably leads to a sharp drop in the demand for programmers.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This guy must not be a programmer looking for work, but rather a shill from industry wanting to continue to flood the job market with cheap H1B programmers.A tech industry analyst cited 11 past things that were supposed to kill coding - I think there's room for one more.
On the other hand, there is the Gartner Hype Cycle. AI is at the Peak of Inflated Expectations. The Trough of Dillusionment happens when limitations are found. Until extinction does actually happen, it's nothing more than speculation.I’m sure the dinosaurs weren’t worried about an extinction level event either.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
My one-sentence post started with "A tech industry analyst." I'm starting to think the forum software is causing problems in the way it downplays the content of our posts, like it did with mine.This guy must not be a programmer looking for work, but rather a shill from industry wanting to continue to flood the job market with cheap H1B programmers.![]()
The "Forum Software" doesn't "downplay" anything. I have no idea what you're alluding to. Threads are bumped to the top of the Unread forum listing whenever someone replies and adds to it. Subjects are listed chiefly chronologically and by popularity, determined by how much activity is in the thread. No one has replied to your comment simply because they have chosen not to.My one-sentence post started with "A tech industry analyst." I'm starting to think the forum software is causing problems in the way it downplays the content of our posts, like it did with mine.
I think you're missing the context needed to understand my complaint. I posted a comment [1] with a Twitter link. MatureDJ replied [2] speculating about who posted on Twitter. But my post introduced this person as a "A tech industry analyst" [1], so there was no need to speculate. It appears MatureDJ, and probably others, did not read my comment. I have stripped away the link to Twitter to make my comment more visible here [1]. You can scroll earlier in this thread to see my original post and compare. It is very easy to miss my comment and focus on the Twitter link, which I believe is a problem.The "Forum Software" doesn't "downplay" anything. I have no idea what you're alluding to. Threads are bumped to the top of the Unread forum listing whenever someone replies and adds to it. Subjects are listed chiefly chronologically and by popularity, determined by how much activity is in the thread. No one has replied to your comment simply because they have chosen not to.
[2]A tech industry analyst cited 11 past things that were supposed to kill coding - I think there's room for one more.
This guy must not be a programmer looking for work, but rather a shill from industry wanting to continue to flood the job market with cheap H1B programmers.![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.