RickTheToad
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Marriage Has Become a Trophy
A wedding is no longer the first step into adulthood that it once was, but, often, the last.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Interesting that marriage took place AFTER children were all born.
Probably a good idea, that way you can see how fertile she is and if her weight and stabilised moods return back to normal after births.
There is a fun questionnaire book that could have been in high school curriculums.Here's the title in case you want to try this with your lady Toad.
Probably a good idea, that way you can see how fertile she is and if her weight and stabilised moods return back to normal after births.
There is a fun questionnaire book that could have been in high school curriculums.Here's the title in case you want to try this with your lady Toad.
RickTheToad
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Interesting, but not interested in marrying the State or deal with anymore family courts or attorneys. Once is more than enough for me.
Yes. I'm never marrying either.
Just seen your influx of marriage and engagement and giving house keys related threads over past 7 months or so and recognise the pressure is on you.
There's questions in this book that are provoking and revealing, the way even an intended religious wedding bride would answer them. Yes, you mentioned you would concede a religious wedding in one of your posts- I was shocked but completely understand your pressure.
Its one thing to glibly discuss these topics on an internet forum with profiles from around the world and quite another thing to be the participant in the relationship living out the posts as you type them.
My suggestion of this book is my gift to you, that maybe would further help you, I bought this book myself for my own next LTR(just scratch out the word marry) which would apply and help me#relationshipconversationstarters
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"Today, marriage is a much more central part of family life among the college educated."
To me, this really says that marriage is much more central to the blue-pilled lemmings who dutifully jump thru all the hoops that society expects them to jump thru.
And the atlantic being the woke trash that it is, they have to say that marriage is a heterosexual institution that should be transcended.
To me, this really says that marriage is much more central to the blue-pilled lemmings who dutifully jump thru all the hoops that society expects them to jump thru.
And the atlantic being the woke trash that it is, they have to say that marriage is a heterosexual institution that should be transcended.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.