"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Article laments that clothing designers ignore "plus size" women

MatureDJ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 30, 2006
Messages
12,731
Reaction score
5,151
http://www.latimes.com/features/image/la-ig-plussize-20101024,0,686409.story

My take is that fat women have very low sexual market value to begin with, and no matter what clothes such a woman would wear, it would be apparent that the woman is fat. Since you can't dress up a pig (literally!), what's the point? Just design the clothes for women who look good in them, and just add cloth to fit.

I'm extraordinarily frustrated that women have become so obese, making it so much more difficult for me to follow my instinct of wanting to sex lithe females. I mean look at this freaking butterball in the article! :down:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

jophil28

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 18, 2006
Messages
5,216
Reaction score
278
Location
Gold Coast. Aust.
Quote, "There are a lot of styles that won't size up."

Hmmm, perhaps the problem is that there are a lot of women who won't size down.

Last time I looked it was not compulsory to be fat.
 

WaterTiger

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 3, 2003
Messages
1,717
Reaction score
35
Location
Wine Country, Ca
Must make clothes for "Big Girls"!!!! Make them lots and lots of clothes!

:eek: :eek: Otherwise...they'll be running around NEKKID!!!!!:eek: :eek:

Picture that image in your head~
 

backbreaker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 24, 2002
Messages
11,546
Reaction score
572
Location
monrovia, CA
that is like them saying tom ford is ignoring fat people.. damnit becuase he is rotfl. some **** just don't look right on big people.

do we really want designer night wear for a 5'6 180 pound woman? They have guys who will date them as it is, we don't need to tell them it's sexy to be fat
 

Rubirosa

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 25, 2010
Messages
503
Reaction score
36
I consider the 1980's the most "wimp" period for the American male portrayal in media. If you look at women's fashion from that era, there's alot of loose fitting, shoulder pad garments for females. In other words, fat chicks and skinny chicks were equalized in the fashion industry in some sort of taking away the curves design "conspiracy", which seemed to masculinize women in the face of the wimpy American male.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

hansol

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2009
Messages
236
Reaction score
16
I'm surprised the article isn't lamenting that men in general ignore plus-size women...
 

backbreaker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 24, 2002
Messages
11,546
Reaction score
572
Location
monrovia, CA
samspade said:
Think they have this problem in Sudan?
actually believe it or not, sudan is the 4th or 5th fattest country in the world lol, so yeah,t hey do.
\
america is the 3rd btw
 

e1m00

New Member
Joined
Dec 2, 2010
Messages
5
Reaction score
0
Fat people are good people. Some people will be slim whatever they eat while some will remain fat how much ever they exercise. I personally believe that he should have shown a bit more decency. There was no need for him to refer to fat women as pigs. After all they are also human beings like us.
 

jophil28

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 18, 2006
Messages
5,216
Reaction score
278
Location
Gold Coast. Aust.
backbreaker said:
actually believe it or not, sudan is the 4th or 5th fattest country in the world lol, so yeah,t hey do.
\
america is the 3rd btw
And first place goes to ? May I have the envelope please.
 

mrRuckus

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 14, 2005
Messages
4,382
Reaction score
85
I was reading a book that cited studies that men basically don't take into consideration women's clothing when deciding her attractiveness, but women largely do for men, and they noted that it's odd that women are obsessed with wearing the right thing when it doesn't matter, while usually men barely care when it does.


I also saw this while reading Evgeni Malkin's wiki page:
Malkin reports that when he was a child, he had "few friends because of his size and love of Twinkies." He says that he was a "husky kid in Russia, is unacceptable in Russia to be fat. Ask [Alexander] Ovechkin [of the Washington Capitals]. He tell you same thing."
Bring back social shaming!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Top