article: If A Man Loves You, He'll Do Anything To Keep You Around. Period.

[MatureDJ]

http://www.yourtango.com/2016289262/if-man-loves-you-he-will-do-anything-keep-you-around

 

[marmel75]

http://www.yourtango.com/2016289262/if-man-loves-you-he-will-do-anything-keep-you-around

My take:

This woman feels like women"deserve" the best man in the world even when they bring nothing to the table. In reality what they deserve is commensurate with what they bring to the table.

I'm sure plenty of loser ass betas would agree with the writer tho...

 

[dustmuffin]

If a man is stupid......He will do anything to keep her around......

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

If a man is stupid......He will do anything to keep her around......

Yeah this sounds about right to be honest.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

The way that I look at this is that tge men she are talking about are the alphas. Women only ever REALLY love alphas. And the behavior that she is describing is (with perhaps an exaggeration to it) alpha behavior. If she looked all around her, she would see that all of her male 'friends' (who were friendzoned of course) are all willing to be just that guy for her. But she was so in love with the other guy that she ignored the betas. As you guys have taught me here, now that she is older, she got much more desperate because her biological clock is ticking down and now she needs a provider, and fast too! So she marries her current husband eho clearly is a whipped sucker.

Thank you SoSuave for teaching me this amongst other things.

 

[El Payaso]

The writings of a post-wall woman...

 

[Serenity]

Who do any of you care? It's the exact same thing I see spoken on this forum. If a woman loves you she'll do anything to keep you around.

This forum is genuinely madness and so are most of such articles.

 

[BeExcellent]

I see junk like this article on the web & shake my head. No wonder you guys are wary about women.

The really sad thing is that so many women apparently subscribe to this view that men become jaded and assume it is true for ALL women, which makes it harder to believe it when you actually come across a woman who isn't like this...

Although I'm also stunned how many men actually lead with showing off their money & success & stuff first, actually as if negotiating for affection.

I personally don't like men who feel the need to show off the "stuff" early on. It is phony. It means these men think they have to use their "stuff" to compete for women (that they don't think they could otherwise pull), and then these same men wonder how they ended up with a gold digger who doesn't like them.

The article may as well be titled "How to be a Gold Digger and what kind of man to Target", but that would be too transparent for the writer.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Who do any of you care? It's the exact same thing I see spoken on this forum. If a woman loves you she'll do anything to keep you around.

This forum is genuinely madness and so are most of such articles.

This

 

[Poon King]

Entitled feminist drivel is the norm these days. It should not surprise any red piller. Women will always talk trash based on what they believe they deserve and how they believe the world should operate. At the end of the day.. none of these women have any control over what other people do. Women can say they deserve this and that.. but they do not have the power to make men give them ANYTHING. We men have complete control over what we offer women. They have ZERO say in what we offer them.

Any man who is paying attention has watched women b!tch and moan over the last 60 years or so for MORE, MORE, MORE from men. As men give them more and more.. they continue to ask for more and more. Any logical person should realize that pandering to women is a game no one can win. Nore is it a virtuous goal.

In the end, 100% of women will either get the alpha man she wants OR settle for whatever is available.. regardless of what she believes she "deserves". Remember that next time you get the urge to kiss a woman's ass.

 

[Poon King]

I see junk like this article on the web & shake my head. No wonder you guys are wary about women.

The really sad thing is that so many women apparently subscribe to this view that men become jaded and assume it is true for ALL women, which makes it harder to believe it when you actually come across a woman who isn't like this...

Although I'm also stunned how many men actually lead with showing off their money & success & stuff first, actually as if negotiating for affection.

I personally don't like men who feel the need to show off the "stuff" early on. It is phony. It means these men think they have to use their "stuff" to compete for women (that they don't think they could otherwise pull), and then these same men wonder how they ended up with a gold digger who doesn't like them.

The article may as well be titled "How to be a Gold Digger and what kind of man to Target", but that would be too transparent for the writer.

How many homeless men have a line of women chasing them?

I think that explains why so many men lead with materialism and resources. Women love successful men.. they just don't like it when men know it, and act like they know it. Similar to a hot girl just assuming you want her. She is probably right.. but we don't like the assumption.

 

[BeExcellent]

How many homeless men have a line of women chasing them?

More than you know. I can't tell you how many times I've had to evict women for moving just such a guy into one of my rentals. They move a deadbeat in, they get walking papers (eviction) so apparently there is a line, probably a low quality line but a line nonetheless. And yes the low income single moms are the worst.

Women love successful men.. they just don't like it when men know it, and act like they know it. Similar to a hot girl just assuming you want her. She is probably right.. but we don't like the assumption.

Personally I greatly respect and like a man who knows it and owns it because that is who he is, because as a successful person myself I relate to the thinking, ambition, and self reliance which success requires. What turns me off is leading with materialism/resources instead of self reliance/ambition/successful thinking etc.

I agree that a hot woman learns to assume every man wants her. Its what the market tells her 24/7/365 so at some point she can't help but make that assumption, and yes there is a great deal of power in having been blessed with good genetics. That is her world at all times, she literally cannot escape it (although it isn't going to last forever, obviously.)

I'm routinely shocked at the number of good looking high powered successful men who go into supplication mode when they find a hot woman with success, brains and confidence. That supplication is NOT attractive. I've had men text me photos of the 75K boat, the waterfront house, the expensive car, etc., etc., etc., promising box seats at xyz stadium because they know so-and-so, and so on. (It's "Pick Me!, Pick Me! behavior) It's as though these men do not think they are "good enough" for who they are, no matter what they have accomplished. These are the men who pedestalize a hot woman from a place of deep internal insecurity. You cannot lead as the man when you put the woman on a pedestal (I know you and others here know this - but many men don't or don't want to accept this). I actually look for leadership ability in a man, many women don't (even if it IS what they actually respond to). Many women think they want a man who will put them on a pedestal, give them goodies, and let them be the boss on the altar of the kitty. Those are the women the linked article is about, IMO. Those are the same women who quit having sex after they get what they want and have used sex/looks to manipulate the man. Lots of men here have been 'that guy' at some point.

Unfortunately men & women who do not accept this dynamic as the norm are in the minority. I'd argue the happier, more authentic minority, but the minority at any rate.

 

[Trump]

http://www.yourtango.com/2016289262/if-man-loves-you-he-will-do-anything-keep-you-around

The woman who wrote the article is a blogger who has no qualifications to write such an article. It's her opinion, not fact.

Take what anyone says on the Internet with a grain of salt. One day Harvard educated PHDs say 5 cups of coffee a day is good for you, next day they say it may cause cancer. Everyone writes what they think will benefit them, no one has your best interest at heart.

 

[Vivacity]

I actually make a very good living, but live well below my means. WELL below...like as in 1/2. I use the money to pay off mortgage and pack retirement funds. I plan to retire at 55 with a comfortable retirement income.

I actually GO OUT OF MY WAY to not look well-off, nor do I reveal to women I date how much I make.

This is how everyone should live. No wonder you are in a position to retire early. Everyone should save money for the future rather than spending their money on women and to attract women, going to bars, drinking, traveling around the world, using up all their bank balances and building up credit card debts, and living paycheck to paycheck.

If you look at any successful person, the first and foremost thing is that he manages his finances well. If you don't know how to manage your finances, i.e., if you are spending more than what you are making or if you are spending everything you are earning, you are screwed literally. A wise guy will always live within his budget.

I know quite a few rich and successful people, you can't even tell how rich they are. They don't boast their richness. They look and behave like a normal random person.

 

[Poon King]

I'm routinely shocked at the number of good looking high powered successful men who go into supplication mode when they find a hot woman with success, brains and confidence. That supplication is NOT attractive. I've had men text me photos of the 75K boat, the waterfront house, the expensive car, etc., etc., etc., promising box seats at xyz stadium because they know so-and-so, and so on. (It's "Pick Me!, Pick Me! behavior) It's as though these men do not think they are "good enough" for who they are, no matter what they have accomplished. These are the men who pedestalize a hot woman from a place of deep internal insecurity. You cannot lead as the man when you put the woman on a pedestal (I know you and others here know this - but many men don't or don't want to accept this). I actually look for leadership ability in a man, many women don't (even if it IS what they actually respond to).

This is exactly why I say "alpha is a mindset" constantly. A lot of men manage to obtain some of the tools of the alpha such as power, money, material goods, etc. But even with all these props.. those men still think like betas.. which makes them act like betas.

No amount of power or money can cure the faggot mindset.

Many women think they want a man who will put them on a pedestal, give them goodies, and let them be the boss on the altar of the kitty. Those are the women the linked article is about, IMO. Those are the same women who quit having sex after they get what they want and have used sex/looks to manipulate the man. Lots of men here have been 'that guy' at some point.

Unfortunately men & women who do not accept this dynamic as the norm are in the minority. I'd argue the happier, more authentic minority, but the minority at any rate.

Women are often conflicted between doing what feels natural and what society tells them. Most women follow society as a default because society provides security. If society says its not "hip" for a woman to be submissive in 2016, then most women will avoid acting submissive. So no matter how natural it feels.. women will fight it to keep their social status. The only time this melts away is when a woman is among an alpha. But since alphas are hard to tie down, the clock is ticking and most men are betas.. the average woman will eventually settle with a beta that meets society's standards on paper. Even though she is not attracted to her faggot husband, the relationship is still a win-win since she gains security enforced by law AND she will cheat on him behind his back anyway.