MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
article: Happily Never After: The Myth of Marriage
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Whatever, it was written for Playboy.
You could cherry pick equally relevant data to write a pro marriage article for "Jesus Weekly" or whatever.
Playboy is what it is (recent changes notwithstanding) because it understood its market and catered to it. Not for being a beacon of truth.
You could cherry pick equally relevant data to write a pro marriage article for "Jesus Weekly" or whatever.
Playboy is what it is (recent changes notwithstanding) because it understood its market and catered to it. Not for being a beacon of truth.
Once Bitten
Don Juan
Getting married these days is one of the dumbest things a man can do.
"Here I am, let your female friends help you cut my nuts off and take my money and sanity, it's okay..." LOL
Porn sites have killed Playboy. They are selling out to our "modern" society. (pfft...) Surprised they don't put men in it too and make it a multi-gender rag. Along with other variants of gender.
"Here I am, let your female friends help you cut my nuts off and take my money and sanity, it's okay..." LOL
Porn sites have killed Playboy. They are selling out to our "modern" society. (pfft...) Surprised they don't put men in it too and make it a multi-gender rag. Along with other variants of gender.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
Well I don't know about you, but when i was single, women were never entitled to romance from me. If they displayed good behavior and had good qualities that I appreciated in a woman, they were rewarded with romance. It's not an automatic guaranteed thing.
I will say though that currently, what a lot of people would consider to be romantic (giving flowers or candy 'just because', writing love notes, stuff like that) I don't really do anymore and neither does she. Perhaps that's a failing on my part, but I think it depends on the person you're with. When we have the opportunity to just spend time together with one another without kids, we just keep it simple with either lunch/dinner, going for a walk, sitting in the park. The last time we did that we went to a small park so I could help her a bit with learning how to get better at basic photography. Basic kino during that time seemed to be sufficient for both of us.