MatureDJ
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
article: Happily Never After: The Myth of Marriage
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Whatever, it was written for Playboy.
You could cherry pick equally relevant data to write a pro marriage article for "Jesus Weekly" or whatever.
Playboy is what it is (recent changes notwithstanding) because it understood its market and catered to it. Not for being a beacon of truth.
You could cherry pick equally relevant data to write a pro marriage article for "Jesus Weekly" or whatever.
Playboy is what it is (recent changes notwithstanding) because it understood its market and catered to it. Not for being a beacon of truth.
Once Bitten
Don Juan
Getting married these days is one of the dumbest things a man can do.
"Here I am, let your female friends help you cut my nuts off and take my money and sanity, it's okay..." LOL
Porn sites have killed Playboy. They are selling out to our "modern" society. (pfft...) Surprised they don't put men in it too and make it a multi-gender rag. Along with other variants of gender.
"Here I am, let your female friends help you cut my nuts off and take my money and sanity, it's okay..." LOL
Porn sites have killed Playboy. They are selling out to our "modern" society. (pfft...) Surprised they don't put men in it too and make it a multi-gender rag. Along with other variants of gender.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
Well I don't know about you, but when i was single, women were never entitled to romance from me. If they displayed good behavior and had good qualities that I appreciated in a woman, they were rewarded with romance. It's not an automatic guaranteed thing.
I will say though that currently, what a lot of people would consider to be romantic (giving flowers or candy 'just because', writing love notes, stuff like that) I don't really do anymore and neither does she. Perhaps that's a failing on my part, but I think it depends on the person you're with. When we have the opportunity to just spend time together with one another without kids, we just keep it simple with either lunch/dinner, going for a walk, sitting in the park. The last time we did that we went to a small park so I could help her a bit with learning how to get better at basic photography. Basic kino during that time seemed to be sufficient for both of us.