MatureDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
article: 11 People Over 30 Explain Why They're *Really* Single
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Desdinova
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It's nice to see High Score Theory in action here...
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- 48-year-old female here, been single for nearly 20 years. Serious trust issues prevented me from pursuing anything after my last relationship
- 38 [year-old] female here. I'm pretty much the same. I have not met anyone worth changing the way I live for.
- I gave up years ago.
- I'm close to forty, and I don't have the time or inclination to put up with people who half-ass their relationships or don't want to take responsibility for things in their life that need addressing.
- 30-year-old here. I've been divorced for a year and a half now. Right after the divorce, I decided to get myself together before dating again. Since then I've dated a few times but I haven't met anybody that I've wanted to continue dating.
- I always tried to make others happy, now it's my turn.
- For me, it's a combination of being picky and not meeting anyone that I really felt like was on the same page as what I was hoping to get out of a relationship.
- I'm single because my child's father abandoned us
- I was quickly and only briefly married
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All these women are alpha widows. They're all met "the one" and fvcked up the relationship somehow, whether it be choosing the wrong man or behaving like a demanding and unfeminine creature that no man worth his salt wants to put up with. They're all now expiring in their looks and ability to make (more) children, so they're trying to pretend that they're happy being single and missing out on their "soulmate".
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Moderate social anxiety doesn't help, though I do put myself out there from time to time.
It's like, yeah, it might be cool to have a boyfriend.
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These two chicks are ugly and probably got used a couple of times for just sex. As with any woman, they want that confident, funny alpha male. Because they're ugly, they were unwilling to settle for the betas who will happily and desperately date ugly chicks. They may have been used for sex a few times, and that's about it.
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- 48-year-old female here, been single for nearly 20 years. Serious trust issues prevented me from pursuing anything after my last relationship
- 38 [year-old] female here. I'm pretty much the same. I have not met anyone worth changing the way I live for.
- I gave up years ago.
- I'm close to forty, and I don't have the time or inclination to put up with people who half-ass their relationships or don't want to take responsibility for things in their life that need addressing.
- 30-year-old here. I've been divorced for a year and a half now. Right after the divorce, I decided to get myself together before dating again. Since then I've dated a few times but I haven't met anybody that I've wanted to continue dating.
- I always tried to make others happy, now it's my turn.
- For me, it's a combination of being picky and not meeting anyone that I really felt like was on the same page as what I was hoping to get out of a relationship.
- I'm single because my child's father abandoned us
- I was quickly and only briefly married
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All these women are alpha widows. They're all met "the one" and fvcked up the relationship somehow, whether it be choosing the wrong man or behaving like a demanding and unfeminine creature that no man worth his salt wants to put up with. They're all now expiring in their looks and ability to make (more) children, so they're trying to pretend that they're happy being single and missing out on their "soulmate".
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Moderate social anxiety doesn't help, though I do put myself out there from time to time.
It's like, yeah, it might be cool to have a boyfriend.
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These two chicks are ugly and probably got used a couple of times for just sex. As with any woman, they want that confident, funny alpha male. Because they're ugly, they were unwilling to settle for the betas who will happily and desperately date ugly chicks. They may have been used for sex a few times, and that's about it.
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Ubercat and Desdinova, agree with both of you guys.
I tought the same exact thing, basically expired goods who pretend they got it right.
Asking women who passed the wall why they are single is like asking a homeless guy why he doesnt attend fancy places and listen at him to tell how he doesnt like to waste time looking for a parking place or wear a suit.
Just one thing about some of them being alpha widowed, I believe it may be the case for some while others just never met someone who matched their irrealistic expectations so simply passed the hand.
I tought the same exact thing, basically expired goods who pretend they got it right.
Asking women who passed the wall why they are single is like asking a homeless guy why he doesnt attend fancy places and listen at him to tell how he doesnt like to waste time looking for a parking place or wear a suit.
Just one thing about some of them being alpha widowed, I believe it may be the case for some while others just never met someone who matched their irrealistic expectations so simply passed the hand.
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Women will generally avoid expressing their thoughts about the men who left them with an emotional imprint.I firmly believe that all woman have a man at the top of their high score list. You have to remember that all of this is based on emotional imprints. You also need to remember that it's a woman's imagination and fantasies that can further deepen those emotional imprints. Those women might even have George Clooney at the top of their lists, simply because they heavily fantasized about him for years, what he's like in bed, what their wedding would be like, etc etc. In that case, she would have caused herself to be alpha-widowed simply by her own fantasies and imagination, regardless of how stupid and unrealistic it is.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Anyway I would like to read guy in their 30s answering to the same question.
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Just an endless pile of women who are justifying why they don't have a relationship. Never married women above the age of 30 are particularly toxic. They don't have a man because they likely have ruined any chances that they did have for a relationship when they still had value. Most of these women still think that they are some sort of prize or an American Idol winner who somehow has not managed to make it to Hollywood Week yet, despite queuing up in line for 13 straight seasons.
Thanks for the laugh.
Thanks for the laugh.
Not an ounce of humility or honest assessment in any of these. Just as expected, coming from expired women. At least, us men will man up for acting like betas, but women will never admit that they probably shouldn't have wh0red it up when they were younger.
