"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dude. I have pulled girls in unconventional ways before. I can do this. if not, no big deal. how is it a train wreck. if I dont get any, I'm not gonna cry. I can just check other girls in the town. I was just gonna meet up with her. It seems easy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I am way better looking than my friend anyways. she would be an idiot to turn me down. plus, she never turned me down in the past. she just got with him prob. cause I had a gf at the time.
 

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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
I am way better looking than my friend anyways. she would be an idiot to turn me down. plus, she never turned me down in the past. she just got with him prob. cause I had a gf at the time.
So what are you saying she's never turned you down.. you have slept with her? Honestly this looks like putting in so much effort for such a small chance of success it looks like a waste. If you say you're good looking.. why don't you just go find another girl?
 
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I have not slept with her. I mean, I am good looking, she has seen my pimped out condo. my nice car. I guess I could find another girl, but I did want to pursue this. but whatever man. I appreciate your advice. but I don't know if this is the biggest train wreck like you think it HAS to be. it may be and if it is then whatever. I won't be crying.
 
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should I just tell her "I don't think we should hang out. It seems you are too hung on (friend)"???
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
should I tell her what I know she has been saying to said friend?
Unless she knows you're pursueing her.. no. You will come across as a creep because then she'll think you've been like stalking her. I would just tell her that you're not gonna be able to visit her anymore like you said.. maybe you can gauge how interested she is off of her reaction.

All it comes down to.. you need to do what you want. If you REALLY REALLY want to try it, then go for it. Do what makes you happy man.. I'm just tryin to tell you I think this is a complete waste of your time.. time that could be spent finding another girl or girls even.
 
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yeah. I don't know. there was this girl from class I was talking to. she was kinoing me everyday. talking to me. she invited me to see a band last night but when I tried dancing on her she said "I like to dance alone." I left the club. I am not going to talk to out of town girl (the one this whole thread is about) for a least a week. I gotta clear my damn head.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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