Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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dude. I have pulled girls in unconventional ways before. I can do this. if not, no big deal. how is it a train wreck. if I dont get any, I'm not gonna cry. I can just check other girls in the town. I was just gonna meet up with her. It seems easy.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I am way better looking than my friend anyways. she would be an idiot to turn me down. plus, she never turned me down in the past. she just got with him prob. cause I had a gf at the time.
 

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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
I am way better looking than my friend anyways. she would be an idiot to turn me down. plus, she never turned me down in the past. she just got with him prob. cause I had a gf at the time.
So what are you saying she's never turned you down.. you have slept with her? Honestly this looks like putting in so much effort for such a small chance of success it looks like a waste. If you say you're good looking.. why don't you just go find another girl?
 
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I have not slept with her. I mean, I am good looking, she has seen my pimped out condo. my nice car. I guess I could find another girl, but I did want to pursue this. but whatever man. I appreciate your advice. but I don't know if this is the biggest train wreck like you think it HAS to be. it may be and if it is then whatever. I won't be crying.
 
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should I just tell her "I don't think we should hang out. It seems you are too hung on (friend)"???
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
should I tell her what I know she has been saying to said friend?
Unless she knows you're pursueing her.. no. You will come across as a creep because then she'll think you've been like stalking her. I would just tell her that you're not gonna be able to visit her anymore like you said.. maybe you can gauge how interested she is off of her reaction.

All it comes down to.. you need to do what you want. If you REALLY REALLY want to try it, then go for it. Do what makes you happy man.. I'm just tryin to tell you I think this is a complete waste of your time.. time that could be spent finding another girl or girls even.
 
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yeah. I don't know. there was this girl from class I was talking to. she was kinoing me everyday. talking to me. she invited me to see a band last night but when I tried dancing on her she said "I like to dance alone." I left the club. I am not going to talk to out of town girl (the one this whole thread is about) for a least a week. I gotta clear my damn head.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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