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dont run to her to sort it out... be aloof & indifferent. wait till she contacts you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Argh, another effed up situation.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LinkinParkROX
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What about "a man takes what he wants"? In all honesty, I do miss her a little bit. I'm such an RAFC lol.
With reference to my previous post, before the bump, I did call her one more time - no answer.
Which was strike two. I'm done. She can contact me if she wants to, or burn the bridge.
I don't care anymore. Her loss.
PS: I believe the two strike rule applies with friends in general. It seems like a good strategy.
With reference to my previous post, before the bump, I did call her one more time - no answer.
Which was strike two. I'm done. She can contact me if she wants to, or burn the bridge.
I don't care anymore. Her loss.
PS: I believe the two strike rule applies with friends in general. It seems like a good strategy.
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What does "a man takes what he wants" have to do with friendship?LinkinParkROX said:What about "a man takes what he wants"? In all honesty, I do miss her a little bit. I'm such an RAFC lol.
You called her your "best" ff,"ff" meaning female friend.
Look dude,YOU ARE CONFUSED.
You are either confused,or you're not being honest,one of the two.
And until you get this confusion straightened out,or stop lying,YOU CANNOT BE HELPED.
Can you PLEASE just be honest? Look,DO YOU LIKE THIS GIRL? Are you attracted to her? Do you want to date her?
Because if you do,then THEN JUST SAY SO so we can help you out with the situation.
If not,then JUST SAY SO so we can help you out with the situation.
Clear this thing up for us...is she just a friend,or is she someone you're romanitcally interested in?
You say she's your "friend",then you talk about using the two strikes rule.
You say she's your friend,then you talk about a man "taking what he wants".
If you could just make up your mind one way or the other,we could give you some direction.
I do believe he likes this girl, even if he doesn't realize it. He reminds me a bit of me before I realized my "best female friend" was really more than a friend. The sooner he comes to that realization the simpler his life will be.
Kal0051 said:I do believe he likes this girl, even if he doesn't realize it. He reminds me a bit of me before I realized my "best female friend" was really more than a friend. The sooner he comes to that realization the simpler his life will be.
ding ding ding. That's why most people here responded like he was talking about a girl he liked. because he talked about her as if she was a girl he likes. Which he does. He became "friends" with her when he was an AFC and we all know why afcs become friends with girls. It's because they don't have the balls to go for what they want. He's been friends with her so long he's forgotten that was his reason for befriending her. But we all know the score. He needs to let her go for 6 months, come back and run real game on her and bang her. If he's still AFC he will fall in love, and if not...she'll fall in love and he'll move on. How do I know? I did that with my best female friend. We are still good friends but she still sends me texts and emails telling me that she loves me and misses me. She's married with a kid now.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
+1. you have mad oneitisKal0051 said:I do believe he likes this girl, even if he doesn't realize it. He reminds me a bit of me before I realized my "best female friend" was really more than a friend. The sooner he comes to that realization the simpler his life will be.