meldiamond
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At some point in the distant past, everyone acknowledged social hierarchies. The rich kids, good looking kids, the top athletes, the cheerleaders, were all at the top of the social hierarchy. The stoners, poor kids, nerdy and ugly kids were at the bottom. Then there was the majority, neither exceptionally pretty or rich, nor as socially incompetent as those at the bottom.
But then you got to college and are taught all of these hierarchies are forms of discrimination, and prejudice and forms of hate and cruelty which need to be abolished.
So, after college, we all wind up confused. Every instinct tells us we want to be one of, and with, the coolest people, who just by coincidence, are richer, more beautiful, and more athletic. But we've been taught by all the "smart people" that this is wrong, we are prejudiced, discriminating, and evil for wanting what is only natural.
This leads to all sorts of contradictory behavior. For example:
1. guys invite me out regularly initially when they first meet me. If or when I decline, they become enraged and engage in rumor mongering about me. Or, they hate me initially because they're jealous.
2. women are strongly attracted but in social circles often try to fight their attraction. Again, if they work up the courage to show interest or ask me out and I decline, they become enraged and vindictive. Usually, they forgive me but then start the enthusiasm to rage cycle all over again.
It becomes a constant roller cycle ride. I can't say I enjoy watching adults in their 20's and 30's acting like middle and high schoolers but I suppose this is the price I pay for trying to live a mainstream life with a long term relationship as the goal.
tl, dr: society is thrown into complete and total chaos without social hierarchies. Throwing everyone together and treating them like equals never works out.
But then you got to college and are taught all of these hierarchies are forms of discrimination, and prejudice and forms of hate and cruelty which need to be abolished.
So, after college, we all wind up confused. Every instinct tells us we want to be one of, and with, the coolest people, who just by coincidence, are richer, more beautiful, and more athletic. But we've been taught by all the "smart people" that this is wrong, we are prejudiced, discriminating, and evil for wanting what is only natural.
This leads to all sorts of contradictory behavior. For example:
1. guys invite me out regularly initially when they first meet me. If or when I decline, they become enraged and engage in rumor mongering about me. Or, they hate me initially because they're jealous.
2. women are strongly attracted but in social circles often try to fight their attraction. Again, if they work up the courage to show interest or ask me out and I decline, they become enraged and vindictive. Usually, they forgive me but then start the enthusiasm to rage cycle all over again.
It becomes a constant roller cycle ride. I can't say I enjoy watching adults in their 20's and 30's acting like middle and high schoolers but I suppose this is the price I pay for trying to live a mainstream life with a long term relationship as the goal.
tl, dr: society is thrown into complete and total chaos without social hierarchies. Throwing everyone together and treating them like equals never works out.