Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That whole post was very pragmatic and true. Good stuff.night101 said:In my attempt to be concise, parenthetical-within-parenthetical statements deemed necessary
Doesn't AFC rejection counter the valuable traits theory? AFC shows the woman that his deficient traits are a problem, consequently the valuable traits he possesses are problematic. Once the girl determines that the deficiencies eclipse the strengths, strong traits are devoid of value. Once she has rationalized this, you can not build value based on the same old stuff she's already knows about. Unless there is a new trait/value, (and you do not continue to suck all the value out of it also), there's no chance of getting out of ljbf.
women on the streets? damn. or from work?Poonani Maker said:Women try to touch me every now and then, either on my lower back or hand.
It all depends, sometimes girls/women give me a stare from far, or glance over once in a while. sometimes they try to avoid eye contact with me if im looking at them, but then catch them later. Funny thing is, when im out looking and feelin good, Women try to avoid me it seems, and only the HB 9's give EC. At this store i go to around my way, there are about 3 HB 8's in there who give me minimal EC but the HB 6 in there gives me an insane amount of flirty EC. seems like she's the only one who has the guts to talk to me. BTW the HB 6 has like size DDDDDDDD+ T1Ts lol,... could be fun to mess with,...still debating on it.verysuave said:what happens when you look at women? do they stare and smile still or just look away? or just ignores you. tnx
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
you ever serious?LoneSilver said:They call police cause I look creepy and scary then they find out I am loaded and then I hear them say dam I f*cked that chance up..![]()
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Yes, this does happen to me, too, but in my case it's because I'm ATTRACTIVE not UNattractive.Poonani Maker said:To be honest, they 59% smile and are in awe as if studying me. The ones that don't or are in their late teens, nerdy, or reserved, eventually come around and get either fixated every time they see me eye-to-eye or they're happy to see me almost always.
Some of the ones who think they have no chance with me, hate me for it and no matter what I do to befriend them treat me like a piece of cold toast. They're usually also the ones who will buy in to what anyone says about me be it from a guy or a girl friend. And they are also the ones who are the most insecure/not successful or not rich in life I imagine i.e. tatoos on the leg, down the back or on the arm.
Women try to touch me every now and then, either on my lower back or hand.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
broken dreams said:Ok dude you do this on hot chicks or fat chicks.
if its a hot chick you are not the only nor the first one
if she is fat chick -then you made her day!
Its important to phrase if you are attractive model look alike, I'm not.
but Im working on my game and there are things that work for some attarctive dudes like this and doesnt work for guys like me cause when I tried doing that chicks creeps the f u c k out !
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.