You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That whole post was very pragmatic and true. Good stuff.night101 said:In my attempt to be concise, parenthetical-within-parenthetical statements deemed necessary
Doesn't AFC rejection counter the valuable traits theory? AFC shows the woman that his deficient traits are a problem, consequently the valuable traits he possesses are problematic. Once the girl determines that the deficiencies eclipse the strengths, strong traits are devoid of value. Once she has rationalized this, you can not build value based on the same old stuff she's already knows about. Unless there is a new trait/value, (and you do not continue to suck all the value out of it also), there's no chance of getting out of ljbf.
women on the streets? damn. or from work?Poonani Maker said:Women try to touch me every now and then, either on my lower back or hand.
It all depends, sometimes girls/women give me a stare from far, or glance over once in a while. sometimes they try to avoid eye contact with me if im looking at them, but then catch them later. Funny thing is, when im out looking and feelin good, Women try to avoid me it seems, and only the HB 9's give EC. At this store i go to around my way, there are about 3 HB 8's in there who give me minimal EC but the HB 6 in there gives me an insane amount of flirty EC. seems like she's the only one who has the guts to talk to me. BTW the HB 6 has like size DDDDDDDD+ T1Ts lol,... could be fun to mess with,...still debating on it.verysuave said:what happens when you look at women? do they stare and smile still or just look away? or just ignores you. tnx
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
you ever serious?LoneSilver said:They call police cause I look creepy and scary then they find out I am loaded and then I hear them say dam I f*cked that chance up..![]()
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Yes, this does happen to me, too, but in my case it's because I'm ATTRACTIVE not UNattractive.Poonani Maker said:To be honest, they 59% smile and are in awe as if studying me. The ones that don't or are in their late teens, nerdy, or reserved, eventually come around and get either fixated every time they see me eye-to-eye or they're happy to see me almost always.
Some of the ones who think they have no chance with me, hate me for it and no matter what I do to befriend them treat me like a piece of cold toast. They're usually also the ones who will buy in to what anyone says about me be it from a guy or a girl friend. And they are also the ones who are the most insecure/not successful or not rich in life I imagine i.e. tatoos on the leg, down the back or on the arm.
Women try to touch me every now and then, either on my lower back or hand.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
broken dreams said:Ok dude you do this on hot chicks or fat chicks.
if its a hot chick you are not the only nor the first one
if she is fat chick -then you made her day!
Its important to phrase if you are attractive model look alike, I'm not.
but Im working on my game and there are things that work for some attarctive dudes like this and doesnt work for guys like me cause when I tried doing that chicks creeps the f u c k out !
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.