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Are you supposed to work forearms?

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So I had a PT write me a training schedule up, designed to build muscle, but there's no excersizes for forearms and I've not seen anyone at the gym doing anything that is obviously for forearms. Is it to be expected that the forearm will grow with the rest of the arm without working on it specifically?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No need. Gripping the bar works your forearms. So does making chicks squirt ;-) if u work the heavy bag, clenching your fist when u hit also works forearms. The idea is that you start the punch with a half closed fist and then squeeze at the last half second when you hit.
 

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No need. Gripping the bar works your forearms. So does making chicks squirt ;-) if u work the heavy bag, clenching your fist when u hit also works forearms. The idea is that you start the punch with a half closed fist and then squeeze at the last half second when you hit.
What are the other results of heavy bag? Is it borderline cardio? Better for toning than muscle gain? BTW, if you can get someone to help, I used to do kick boxing and the best forearm workout I ever had was when punching the mitts. The guy who's holding the mitts thrusts his hands towards yours just before impact. However, this might just be an imitation of a punch bag.
 

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I ve done a fair bit of kickboxing. If you go all out 10 minutes of heavy bag work is a good cardio workout. If you're using light weight bag gloves I suggest going for Speed rather than power put all the power into your kicks and elbow strikes that's easier on the joints. If you want to hit the bag hard I suggest using full size boxing gloves.
 

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It's looks a bit crappy but I'd also suggest getting some elastic bandages for your knees when you're doing kicking training with a heavy bag it's just stops your knees moving about sideways when you're throwing kicks and that's much Kinder on your ACL ligament.

And of course any guy who gives you s*** about how you look when you re working the heavy bag deserves a Darwin Award.
 

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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oh and you get better cardio if you actually think about your kick boxing workout. Since you're doing the workout anyway you might as well get better at self defence as well.

So........

Basically you don't train just at fighting distance trading punches with a guy you want to practice 5 things.

Stepping to the side and throwing punches and kicks.
When you are at punching range stepping back and kicking.
When you are at punching range stepping in and to the side and throwing elbows especially to the arms and body - most guys will use their arms to cover up providing a perfect opportunity to throw an elbow to the bicep or the point of the shoulder
Sprawls and sidestepping for when some MMA guy tries to grab your leg.

Practice these things and you will give most Fighters fits. You seem like a laid back and we'll adjusted guy but you are young so just in case last piece of advice is don't ever start any trouble. Martial arts is just for fitness and a bit of an insurance policy. There's a lot of guys like me walking around and a lot of young guys carry blades these days.
 

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My advise is to get Captains of Crush and Fatgripz. Your forearms will be strong as hell within a few months
 

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Hey word of warning too. Don't work your forearms too hard. Even at 19 I would ease into it. Reason is you use your forearms for just about every type of exercise so if you get injured you won't be able to train anything.
 

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You dont need to directly isolate your forearms to make them bigger or stronger. Gaining weight will add to your overall mass/size. Deadlifting and barbell rows will indirectly work your forearms. Personally I like to do some heavy shrugs / Bar Holds at the end of my deadlift days to work on my grip.
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So I had a PT write me a training schedule up, designed to build muscle, but there's no excersizes for forearms and I've not seen anyone at the gym doing anything that is obviously for forearms. Is it to be expected that the forearm will grow with the rest of the arm without working on it specifically?
I work my forearms separately. I differ from most guys here in what I want to accomplish. I agree with them that overall weight gain does obviously grow your forearms, but I want MORE forearm growth than the rest. I want my forearms and calves to grow in relation to the rest of my body. I can't really afford to gain more weight and really don't want to - at least in the sheer measurements category. I wouldn't mind gaining strength.

But, unfortunately, it seems forearms/calves are directly related to genetics and bone structure, so what I want to accomplish may not be possible. I have made them bigger though, but I highly doubt I'll ever make them a strength. I focus more of my workouts on hand strength rather than hammer curls and things like that. I've injured myself doing the curling motions too much, but I've found with hand strengthening, that takes care of everything else and gives me the definition I want.
 
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