Are you open to married/engaged women?

[jhonny9546]

Hey guys, with all the opportunities that come your way once you become a "superior" or even "slightly superior" man, you also start to have to deal with decisions. Things will start happening to everyone that require us to decide whether to pursue them or not.

And these things need to be established first based on our values and honor, because as for women, once they've targeted you, they'll do anything to find ways to get that inner itch scratched by you. So, they won't even think about their current situation, engaged, married, mothers, etc.
They'll do it anyway. And it's up to us as men to set the rules for ourselves in advance.

There are those who understand female nature, and those who don't.
For those of us who do know, we know that women, even those already in a relationship, will cheat to satisfy their need for a new d1ck, validation, romance, or simply something else.
That said, as a man, I've always thought that I would never have s3x with women with children, since that might be her choice, but not mine to do harm to those children, and those already in a relationship with another man, whether it's just a date or a marriage, could get me in trouble if their actual BF/HB, turn to be mentally ill.
In fact, there are many mentally ill men out there, in oneitis, and the mere thought of their woman doing this to them would drive them crazy, but not with her, with you.

That said, most of the attention, direct and indirect requests, come from all types of women.
Removing from the main pie the women who are already in a relationship, or with children, leaves the 10-20% who are effectively single.

Everyone is different, has different values, but I'd like to understand each of you's different perspectives on this.

 

[Pumax]

I found this discussion interesting because, as an attractive man on the autism spectrum, i find difficult to understand some things.

From my experience, there are women from all walks of life who are already in relationships, the cashier, my cleaning lady, a co-worker, the receptionist at my gym, the dental hygienist, who, on certain "high libido" days, can become unusually flirtatious or even quite forward. I've even had experiences at work where the signals felt unmistakable. For example, one of my bosses gave me prolonged "puppy dog" eyes, found excuses to touch me, and even grabbed my butt. To me, that seemed like a very clear sign she wanted me to do something, like asking her "Are you alone today", but I never did since that would have made me in a bad position.

The problem is that I'm convinced I miss many opportunities because of my autism. Unless the interest is extremely obvious, I tend to assume I'm misreading the situation. Even in cases that seem clear, I still want certainty. I almost expect the other person to say something explicit like, "I'm alone tonight," or "I'd like some company." Isn't that a cheater would do? I think so..

I also know that many women rely on plausible deniability when flirting, and that makes things even more difficult for someone like me. I often can't tell whether someone is simply being friendly or deliberately testing the waters and want me to take action.. that really sucks guys... What I'm really interested in, though, is a different question.

For those who have had affairs with women who were already in relationships or married, were there any consistent behaviors or signals that made it clear they were looking for a casual affair rather than a new relationship?

In other words, it seems to me that a woman who wants to stay with her current partner but have a discreet sexual encounter would probably behave differently from a woman who is emotionally interested in another man and thinking about leaving her partner. Do those situations usually involve different kinds of flirting, conversations, or signals?


A lot of women message me, but it's almost always about ordinary things, asking for advice, asking for help, or making casual conversation.
None of them ever send messages that are overtly flirtatious or clearly indicate romantic or sexual interest, which leaves me wondering whether I'm simply missing the signs or whether there were never any signs to begin with.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Married: no
Engaged: probably not.

 

[RangerMIke]

No. Too much drama.

 

[BaronOfHair]

In the past, I've had affairs with married and engaged women.... That's a relic from a more thoughtless time in my existence, and an activity I wouldn't knowingly participate in again

 

[The Duke]

I had sex with my physical therapist that was married. She was a little more direct and intentional than a woman that wasn't married. She did all the coming on to me, I just stayed indifferent. She started off texting me, then sent pics of her looking hot. I thought she was just looking for validation since she was married.

Then she asked to meet my at my gym parking lot after she got off work. I knew what was up then and things escalated from there.

It turned out that her husband was cheating on her as well.

She started falling for me, buying me gifts , and I distanced myself.

A few months later she invited me to a Halloween party at her house and told me I could stay the nite and that it was ok with her husband. And hell no I wasn't going for that. Im sure they wanted a threesome. By that point he was well aware of me and his wife told him everything.

I always felt bad but I was certain she was going to fuhk some other cop guy that she knew if it wasnt me. I also wanted to know what it was like because my ex-wife cheated on me so I went thru with it.

I would never entertain anything like that again. Too much risk. It's weak behavior. I don't need to fuhk every girl that is down for it these days.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Almost every guy has already fvcked a woman in this category, most multiple women, but without knowing it because they will virtually never tell you.

 

[Gamisch]

Nope.

Married men are the biggest and especially most dangerous simps out there. They will kill you over their woman, putting all the blame on you. After the affair they will probably stay with her and pretend it never happened.

Bad idea all together.