"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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are we really meant to be together ?????

sac_hot_male

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ok first of all i have this one girls at my school and its seems as if where ever she goes i'm always there (and vice-versa).....we always seems eachother at school and eye each other and such like that but i havent make a move yet......

here are some true ideas that happens:

-when she went to one of my guy friend's house with his (my friend's) sister i just happen to went to his house on the same day and saw her there (two times this happens without me or her knowing that we are going over)

-just a couple of days ago at school when after the whole school was done testing on the first part of the test, and it was break time so me and a few of my friends went to the guys bathroom and she just happens to be infront of us going to a class room with her friends(she kept on turning her head back to look at me and i kept checking her out from behind too)

-later that day(2nd one from above) i walked home and when i came to the end of the block and about to cross the street, she and her friends walk passes me by (i looked at her and then just look down, she also looked at me too)

-this one time when class is over i never saw her went passes me by on these kind of days but somehow she happens to drop by

alot more but i'm sure i have wrote enough....its like even if i do try to ignore her my eye just kept on finding her as if we were magnet.....

so my questions is:

-are we really meant to be together?

-is it just a coincidence or is it destiny?

-am i'm over reacting?

-what can i do about this?

-what should i do about this?

cant really handle this by myself so help please
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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1. Nobody is meant to be together. To fool yourself into that is chumpish in my opinion.
2. Coincidence. Destiny is merely a word for people who refuse to take control of their lives.
3. Yes.
4. Stay on this site. Read the articles. Read the threads. Notice what you're doing wrong. I can tell you two things right now. A: You looked down. Unless down was at her butt, you displayed inferiority. B: You haven't made a move.
5. You should always do what you can.

Last thing, you can always handle this by yourself. You seem like you need a little bit of guidance, but in the end, we don't get the girl for you, you do. You do it.

You do it. We just offer advice.

I repeat, you do it.
 

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yea i figure it...


its almost at the end of the school years any ways so well see how it goes


thanks alot man...appreciated it
 

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ffff. C'mon man. I see the same girls at the gym everytime I go, it's coz they work there, not 'coz I'm meant to marry them. It's merely coincidence.

Don't analyse everything. Next time you see her, just say "wow, you again. You stalking me?" (with a friendly grin) and take it from there.
 

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It is just a coincidence! Dont fool yourslef in to all that "We ment to be together" Shyt. You will meet, fukk, bang, dump, kiss, like hundreds or maybe more women in your life/
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lol shydude your one ****y guy im going to start being more like you :D
 

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hey WesCottII hehe i love ur lines you just gave out....thankz man i'll probably used it out

i thought about it and it might just give things going for me...haha and again thanks

ohhh yea and shydude you are confident.... i'll might act up like you but not all thd time though
 

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ohh yea and one more thing WesCottII.....i dont meet her at the gym and stuff like that.....its like i met her almost everywhere i go to(just to set the record staight)
 

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sac_hot_male said:
ok first of all i have this one girls at my school and its seems as if where ever she goes i'm always there (and vice-versa).....we always seems eachother at school and eye each other and such like that but i havent make a move yet......

here are some true ideas that happens:

-when she went to one of my guy friend's house with his (my friend's) sister i just happen to went to his house on the same day and saw her there (two times this happens without me or her knowing that we are going over)

-just a couple of days ago at school when after the whole school was done testing on the first part of the test, and it was break time so me and a few of my friends went to the guys bathroom and she just happens to be infront of us going to a class room with her friends(she kept on turning her head back to look at me and i kept checking her out from behind too)

-later that day(2nd one from above) i walked home and when i came to the end of the block and about to cross the street, she and her friends walk passes me by (i looked at her and then just look down, she also looked at me too)

-this one time when class is over i never saw her went passes me by on these kind of days but somehow she happens to drop by

alot more but i'm sure i have wrote enough....its like even if i do try to ignore her my eye just kept on finding her as if we were magnet.....

so my questions is:

-are we really meant to be together?

-is it just a coincidence or is it destiny?

-am i'm over reacting?

-what can i do about this?

-what should i do about this?

cant really handle this by myself so help please
Make a move already. We're all behind you in support; post a FR, we'll assist you.

GOGOGOGO!
 

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Shydude isn't something special. The things he says may be over exagerrated, but he makes a valid point. If I analyzed every girl I got on, I'd be going crazy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sac_hot_male said:
ohh yea and one more thing WesCottII.....i dont meet her at the gym and stuff like that.....its like i met her almost everywhere i go to(just to set the record staight)

Yeah, I got that man. I was just trying to illustrate that I see the same girls alot, but it doesn't mean i should be with them. Good luck pal.
 
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